All of us at one time or another wanted to change a habit. It is possible to change habits but yes, it takes time and patience. Most habits change in about 4-8 weeks but don’t put a time or date on it, it just adds pressure. Here are some tips on how to change a habit.

1. Know the habit needs to be changed. This has a lot to do with self-awareness. Be aware of what habits you want to change. Once you are aware then you can start making changes.

2. How will I change the habit? Will you substitute negative behaviors/actions for more positive ones. Example: Instead of biting nails, you will chew gum. Substitution is a way to help change a negative behavior/action. Do you need to change your thought process. Everytime you have a negative/irrational thought replace it with a realistic/positive thought. Again, you need to be self-aware of your negative actions/behaviors and thoughts for this to work.

3. Want – the most important part. For any changes to occur, you need to want to make the changes. You need to want to change for YOU!! You can find motivation from others like your family, spouse, etc but it still needs to come from within. 

 Changing a habit can be painful and scary but the rewards are always greater. Also, remember that the pain and fear are temporary. It will pass. You are not  a victim and have complete control over your life. CHOOSE to make the change.

We become happy during the change because we feel a sense of accomplishment which motivates us to continue. We feel the journey of change is a reward. We are always learning through the changes while taking risks that makes us happy.

Make sure to include positive reinforcement during your habit change. Reward and praise yourself. Example: When you are on a diet and lose ten pounds, you buy yourself a new  shirt. It’s the same thing – reward and praise yourself. Use self-talk, tell yourself what a great job you are doing.

What changes will you make?

About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email dlcounselingmedia@gmail.com
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4 Responses to Habits

  1. Thomas says:

    Very motivating !!!

  2. Joanna Aislinn says:

    Very nice post! My changes have come over the years: as small as exchanging sugar and whole milk in coffee for Splenda and 1% milk; exercising in 15-20-minute sessions 3-4 days a week and/or walking on alternate days. Doing at least one writing-related thing per day, especially now while I’m working toward building a platform.

    Mostly, maintaining a positive attitude that I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be in God’s greater plan. One step at a time, I’m moving in the direction I want to go.

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