Easing your stress

I put a post up on recession stress. I wanted to follow up with some tips on easing your stress. being able to work through your stress and enjoy your life. Remember, optimistic people are more resilient. They handle stress better. So, make sure to be grateful for what you have and give love, accept love and serve others.


Easing the stress


  1. Re-train the brain with positive affirmations and daily reminders. The more positive self-talk we have, the happier we are. We can make our positive self talk into a belief and habit.  Each day say positives that work on your negatives. Example: I’m feeling sad and unsuccessful because I have been unemployed for over six months. Each morning when you wake up tell yourself how smart and successful you are. For added support say it in the morning and night. After a few weeks of saying this, it will become a habit and a belief.
  2. Admit that you are having feelings of stress, anxiety, anger, etc. If you try to hide and deny the pain you will end up burying it deep inside with no outlet. The unfortunate part is it will eventually rear its ugly head. Admit to your pain and take control. This will allow you to move forward and feel powerful. If you stay in denial, you will end up feeling stale, stagnate and depressed.
  3. Work on what you CAN control. Once you admit your painful feelings then you can move on to working on what you Can control and remove what you can’t. If you continue to work on things you can’t control you will become frustrated and set yourself up for failure. Write a list of everything in your life that you can’t control. Take that list and do a symbolic activity to show that your removing the can’t from your life. Take the list and put it through a paper shredder or throw it into your fireplace whatever will symbolize your saying goodbye to the cant’s in your life. Then write a list of everything you can control. This will be the list you will work on.
  4. Find the good even when things are bad. Always look for the positives in a bad situation. For example: I have a friend who has cancer. Even though she has a bad diagnosis, chemo, radiation and medical bills, all she can talk about is the new great friends she has made. That is true positivity and resiliency. Sometimes the positive is what you have learned in a bad situation or how strong you have become but there is always appositive. Look at the big picture and you will find one. Everything in life is a teachable moment.
  5. Free write – journal write, it’s very healing. Journal writing can help you:

– Look back to see how far you have come

– A good way to problem solve and find solutions

– It gives you a way to really think and work through your feelings

 Questions to ask yourself when writing:

How do I feel? Write if your feeling upset, angry, hurt, etc

Write your issues and then ask yourself: What can I do now?

What did I learn?


  1. When your stressed you feel emotional and mentally exhausted but it’s important to remember stress affects you physically. Be in tune with your body. Use your physical signs as warning sigsn/red flags that something is wrong. Are you feeling fatigued? Stomach problems? Neck and back aches, joint pain, etc.  This signs will let you know it’s time to stop, refuel and relax.
  2. Relax – make sure to take some extra time in your day to meditate, deep breathing exercises, yoga or walk/exercise. Take time for you! You can’t take care of others, if you dont take care of yourself first. 



About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email dlcounselingmedia@gmail.com
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