Connection between mid-life & Spirituality

The connection between mid-life and spiritual transformation


Mid-life is the beginning of your spiritual transformation because it is the time of your life that you work through all the pain and hurt you have dealt with your whole life but avoided.

Now its mid-life (ages 35-50’s) and you realize you have so many unanswered questions.

You realize you’re not as fulfilled or happy as you want to be

You feel like something is missing

Your dreams have changed and you’re looking for a deeper purpose

This is the beginning of the spiritual journey.

We can have a transformation without working through all our personal kinks.

Ask yourself the following questions:

What have you been avoiding all these years? What are you afraid of?

What are your true desires?

Who are we still angry at? Who do we need to forgive?

When we work through our fears, pain and hurt we can start the journey to our true self.

Working through all the fears can put us on the right track to our soul, leaving the ego behind.

When we want to make deeper changes and find our true self we need to start with a spiritual practice.

We need to have a spiritual routine that keeps us on the right path towards freeing ourselves from all those fears we were raised with.

Start with one spiritual practice and do it for a few months till it becomes a habit and then add on slowly until you have a full spiritual practice.

With your new spiritual practice you will feel a sense of peace and stillness

A sense of who you are inside- your true self

It helps you to want things but not NEED things

It allows you to feel a sense of love at all times towards all things

It allows you to feel connected to earth, animals, plants and all people – you realize we are all connected

It allows you to love yourself and stop the never ending cycle of perfection

Let’s start your spiritual practice today!

I give 11 different practices. Start with any of them and slowly add the rest in to have a full spiritual practice. I do all of these and believe it or not, it doesn’t interrupt my schedule, it actually enhances my day!

  1. Meditation – before you say “I can’t quiet my mind” remember that there are many forms of meditation. There is guided so you can just sit down, relax, close your eyes and listening to soothing music, nature sounds or someone guiding you into a meditation. All we need is a few minutes a day to start reducing stress levels. Don’t judge your practice. There is no right or wrong. It’s just about spending time alone and being still.
  2. Gratitude is another form of meditation and some of my clients find this much easier because you don’t need to quiet yourself. You can say to yourself what you’re grateful for or write it. All you need to do is take a few minutes to ask yourself; what am I grateful for?
  3. Thank you’s or prayers – it’s just saying Thank you to god, source, universe, angels, etc. just take a minute to say Thank you.
  4. Sending love to others, the world, animals whatever you want but just spending a minute to send love to others who need it.
  5. Exercise – believe it or not this is also a form of meditation. I had a co-worker tell me she meditates while she does her lunges. I meditate through my walks. Exercise brings us both physical and mental health. Yoga is a favorite among my spiritual friends.
  6. Natural light – spending time outside in natural sunlight and get vitamin D. I live on the east coast so during the winter this becomes a challenge. You want to have an area of your home where you get plenty of natural sunlight in through your windows.
  7. Self-care is a priority. We can’t help others till we help ourselves. We can’t bring happiness if we are not happy. Self-care if found through a spiritual practice. When you spend time in prayer, meditation, gratitude, etc. your spending time alone doing what’s good for your spirit. Self-care becomes a given when you have a spiritual practice.
  8. Mindfulness – slowing down, doing one thing at a time, spending time just breathing, observing the beauty around you. Being in the now is a mainstay for happiness. Being mindful keeps you in the moment.
  9.  Random acts of kindness- doing for others with no expectations. Being kind, warm, caring, respectful and empathetic to everyone even people you don’t like, people who have hurt you and made your blood boil. This will help you grow and become a non-judgmental person. * This also includes being kind, respectful and loving to yourself!
  10. Let go and accept what can’t be changed. We can’t control anyone but ourselves. When we realize this we can let go of everything else. We can realize that when we have no control, we still have the choice to accept and that allows you to be free.
  11. Finding and using your purpose to be of service to this world. To help people using your strengths and gifts.

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About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email
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