Take the Monday Challenge – Make a change today!

Change-  The Monday Challenge – Make a change today!

  

 

We   have no choice but to change. It’s a natural part of life but yet we fear it.   To decide if you want to change as a whole or just make some small changes ask   yourself these questions:

      1.  Is   your life satisfying and/or fulfilling?

      2.  Do   you feel making changes is easy or do you fear change?

      3.    Do   you enjoy changes?

      4. What   do you want to change and why?

 

The   next question I always get is why don’t people change? These are some of the   reasons we fear change.

          1.    Is   the change worth it? We think what if we change and things get worse? Is the   grass really greener on the other side?

          2. We   fear change due to our upbringing or past experiences but remember every   situation is different. We can’t base everything on past experiences plus we   can use the past experience as a teachable moment so we don’t make the same   mistakes twice.

Fear   can be learned. The good news: if it’s learned we can unlearn it and form new   habits/thoughts.

           3.  Are   you afraid to rock the boat – make waves in your life that will affect others   like family, friends, or partner?

           4. We   are afraid to step outside our comfort zone. We are afraid to lose our   stability and security. So, we stay in our comfortable mode but that also   means we don’t grow or develop.

           5. We   become overwhelm during changes.

 

It   is normal to have fears and doubts. Feel the fear, express the doubts don’t   try to push them aside or bury your feelings. Making changes is a big move and   its ok to feel uncomfortable but don’t let that stop you.

Here   are a few ways to start making changes

          1. Take   a look at yourself and your life. Be honest with yourself. Who are you? What   isn’t working in your life?

          2.  Change   your perspective on change – change is necessary to grow, develop and reach   our full potential. If we don’t change we will become stale, stagnate and   depressed.

          3.   Treat   yourself kind, respectfully and be patient

          4.  Start   small – one change at a time. Baby steps are good with change; you don’t want   to overwhelm yourself.

          5.  Have   an action plan – set your “change goal” and an action plan on how to reach   this goal. It makes the goal more attainable.

          6.   Don’t’    expect perfection or unrealistic expectations.

          7.  Don’t   expect all family and friends to agree with your changes but do have support.   If you don’t have supportive friends or family, professional support is   available through groups or counseling.

      8.  Make   a commitment to yourself to change. This will help when you hit times of   discomfort. When you make the commitment you’re more likely to stick with   it.

 

 

About Diane Lang

Diane Lang   – Positive Living Expert and psychotherapist – is a nationally recognized   speaker, happinesss author,   educator, therapist and media expert. Lang is extremely mediagenic and offers   expertise on a variety of health and wellness topics about creating balance   and finding happiness through positive living as well as multiple mental   health, lifestyle and parenting needs. In addition to holding multiple   counseling positions, Diane is also an adjunct professor at Montclair State University.

Lang has   been interviewed for numerous magazine and newspaper articles and has been a   frequent guest on radio and TV shows including “Fox & Friends” on the Fox   News Network. Lang is a monthly contributor for “Family Beautiful” magazine, a   weekly columnist for MommyTalk.com, a regular featured expert on the “Expat   Show” broadcasted weekly on the New York ABC affiliate WTBQ-AM, and a Blogger   at www.pazoo.com. ;     Lang speaks to employees of   large companies to help reduce stress in the workplace and speaks to parents   about how to create balance and find happiness along with a variety of other   health and wellness topics. For rates or to book Diane Lang contact    Lifeline36@aol.com

Diane is   also the author of two books: “Baby Steps: The Path from Motherhood to Career”   and “Creating Balance and Finding Happiness.”

Visit:    www.dlcounseling.com.   For more information or email Diane at Lifeline36@aol.com

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About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang is a Therapist, educator, author and life coach. Diane has two books: Baby steps the path from motherhood to Career and Creating balance & finding happiness. Diane works as a Therapist and also is an adjunct at Montclair State University. This blog will help educate and empower you to live your best life! For more information please visit her website: www.dlcounseling.com
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