The truth about Happiness
There is so much information about Happiness all over the place it makes it tough to know what really makes us happy.
I wanted to clear up some of the myths on happiness and give you the real info on happiness.
For today challenge yourself to be happy. Its one day at a time so you can practice happiness each and every day!
1. You need to feel all emotions – This means we just cant feel the good emotions, the ones that make us feel joyful. We need to feel anger, sadness, grief, loss, etc. If we don’t feel these emotions they get buried and come out in different ways. We can physically get sick, we can be angry and irritable, we can lack trust and have a lot of stress just to name a few. So, make sure to feel all emotions. Once we aware of our feelings and go through the feelings, they lose their power.
2. We will not always be happy – we will have bad and good days. That is normal and to be expected. if we expect to be happy all the time, we are setting ourselves up for failure. Its an unrealistic expectation.
* What we want to do is work on how we cope with these bad days/situations. We want to be resilient. The more optimistic we are in general the more resilient we are.
3. Happiness is based on perspective – its how you choose to see things. Its how you choose to look at a situation. An optimist would choose to see even a negative situation as temporary and as a learning experience. An optimist would say: what can I learn from this situation? A pessimist would say: why me? This always happens to me? A pessimist see’s themselves as a victim.
4. True happiness includes letting go – its realizing we cant be in control of everything and its ok to let go and accept where you are. We learn that by letting go and accepting where we are at the moment puts us back in some control. Its gives a foundation to move forward from. An optimist will know that there control lies in letting go and acceptance.
5. Accept that change is going to happen – we can try to live in a bubble without change but all that brings is stagnation which can lead to depression. An optimist accepts that change is part of life.
6. The happiest people live in the moment. Pessimists are constantly worrying about the future (anticipatory anxiety) or they are stuck in the past which they can’t change. Your happiest moments are in the now!
Friday, September 20, 1pm – Grief – Free workshop
Oakville Senior center, CT
Monday, September 23, 7pm – Positive Parent
Westfield Community School, NJ
Wednesday, September 25, 7pm – Re-entering the workforce
Union County College, NJ
Thursday, September 26, 6:30pm – Declutter your life and reduce stress
Sussex Community College, NJ
ABOUT DIANE LANG
Diane Lang – Positive Living Expert and psychotherapist – is a nationally recognized speaker, Happinesss author
, educator, therapist and media expert. Lang is extremely mediagenic and offers expertise on a variety of health and wellness topics about creating balance and finding happiness through positive living as well as multiple mental health, lifestyle and parenting needs. In addition to holding multiple counseling positions, Diane is also an adjunct professor at Montclair State University.
Lang has been interviewed for numerous magazine and newspaper articles and has been a frequent guest on radio and TV shows including “Fox & Friends” on the Fox News Network. Lang is a monthly contributor for “Family Beautiful” magazine, a weekly columnist for MommyTalk.com, a regular featured expert on the “Expat Show” broadcasted weekly on the New York ABC affiliate WTBQ-AM, and a Blogger at www.pazoo.com. ; Lang speaks to employees of large companies to help reduce stress in the workplace and speaks to parents about how to create balance and find happiness along with a variety of other health and wellness topics. For rates or to book Diane Lang contact: Lifeline36@aol.com
Diane is also the author of two books: “Baby Steps: The Path from Motherhood to Career” and “Creating Balance and Finding Happiness.”