What truly matters

What truly  matters – Monday Challenge

  

 
This Monday make sure you add what really matters into your daily   life.
 
What matters
1. Connection – we need others. No matter what anyone says we can’t be   happy alone,we need to have connection. The quantity of people is up to you   but for happiness purposes you need to have people you connect with and feel a   sense of belonging. The number one factor for happiness is socialization.   
 
2. Religion/Spirituality matter – as I pursued my academic career in   psychology, there wasn’t much talk about either but when I became a   student of positive psychology I learned how important it was to have a sense   of a higher power, to know there is something bigger out there. It doesn’t   matter if you find it in religion or spirituality just finding it is   important. The other part is through religion/spirituality you find connection   and community.
 
3. You can’t feel happiness without being vulnerable. If your not open to   the possibilities, the chance of being hurt, Then your not fully available to   feel happiness.
 
4. The roller coaster ride of happiness – so if we know we have to be   vulnerable to find true happiness then we also know that happiness isn’t a   smooth ride. It will have its ups and downs. Everything is temporary. So, if   its good time enjoy it, if its a bad time learn from it.  
 
5.If we hold in our emotions, not let people know our true self we end up   in a vicious cycle. The more we hide, the more the negativity keeps rearing   its ugly head. You can’t move forward till you come face to face with your   emotions, fear and your authentic self.
 
6.If you don’t believe in yourself you will always be searching for love   and acceptance. It will be a never ending search that will include pain and   suffering. You must find self-love before anything else.
To do this, we must be self compassionate, kind and patient to   ourselves.
 
7. I realized I spent a majority of my life being someone else. I was a   person who deep down inside was afraid of her own shadow. A person who never   reveled how she felt due to fear of rejection.All this got me was pain,   suffering and more fear. To have satisfying relationships you must be you, the   authentic you, the imperfect you, the silly and goofy you, the whole package.   There is no half fasts, and’s, if’s or buts on this one. Your either fully in   or not. When you let the true you shine and let go of the false self, your   shoulders will relax, the brick will be lifted from your chest and life will   flow more smoothly. It is an easier ride to be you.
 
8. Stepping outside your comfort zone will cause you to be vulnerable.   Start small. Take these vulnerable steps towards an authentic life. Small   steps of courage are all that is needed. Open up a little more, share a little   bit of you, give a compliment to a stranger, try something new, be honest,   start somewhere.
 
Being vulnerable, stepping outside your comfort zone and being the true   you is all an investment in your overall life satisfaction. It is an   investment in your happiness, When you invest in yourself everyone around you   reaps the benefits. It is important to realize self-care is an investment in   you and many others. Your happiness/moods are contagious When your happy   others around you feel warm, happy and comfortable.
 
This week’s workshops- Hope you can join me!
 
Wednesday, October 16, 7pm – Re-Entering the Workforce –    A Free Workshop Berkeley Heights Public Library,   NJ Telephone – 908-464-9333
 
Thursday, October 17, 1pm – Live your best life – Free   workshop
Montville Public Library, NJ
 
973-402-0900   Thursday, October 17, 7pm – What Kind   of Smart Are You? Ramsey Community School, NJ Telephone –   201-327-2025
 
  Friday, October 18th – Grief –  Free   workshop Oakville Senior Center, CT Telephone –   860-945-5250
 
Saturday, October 19, 10am – Declutter your life and reduce   stress – Free workshop
Bound Brook Public Library, NJ
732-356-0043
 
For more information please visit Diane’s website: www.dlcounseling.com or email Diane:    Lifeline36@aol.com 
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About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang is a Therapist, educator, author and life coach. Diane has two books: Baby steps the path from motherhood to Career and Creating balance & finding happiness. Diane works as a Therapist and also is an adjunct at Montclair State University. This blog will help educate and empower you to live your best life! For more information please visit her website: www.dlcounseling.com
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