New Years done right

New Years resolutions done right
Every year we either make resolutions or we totally ignore it and say to   ourselves ” They never workout” so why bother trying.
Every New year brings the struggle of resolutions we want to do and the fear of failure. Let’s do it right this year.
 
1. January 1st has come and gone but it doesn’t mean you cant have goals.   You can start any day. Each day is a brand new opportunity to start a new goal.
 
2. Ask yourself and be honest – Am I truly committed to my goals? Am I making a change because I should or someone else thinks I should? If your truly not ready or willing it wont happen.
 
3. Have a true goal – is this goal something you really want? Again, these questions need to be answered with honesty.
We want to make changes for a few reasons such as:
I hit rock bottom and I want to go up
I have had enough and its time to change
We are stuck, stale and stagnate in our lives and its time for a new phase to start.
 
4. Once you sure your ready and willing to make a change be prepared for   fear to rear its ugly head – this is normal and expected. You will be stepping   outside your comfort zone and when we do that fear enters the picture. Be   aware of this, feel the fear, acknowledge that your fearful and then remember   that life is full of changes. If we didn’t change we wouldn’t grow and   develop. Instead if we let fear rule our decisions we would live a life   feeling stuck, bored and depressed.
Also, look back at your life and see all the changes you have already gone through such as moving out, going to college, getting married, having children, etc – you have made it through all those changes and will   continue to. Remember, we have been living with change since we were born- we   went from crawling to walking, we went from staying home to pre-school, we switched classes, teachers and schools all the way through our childhood. We are made to change!
 
5. Whatever problem/issue you want to change has been a part of you for   awhile which means it became part of your identity. We grow used to it and even like it. Example: I have clients who have had a stroke or brain injury   and it has become part of their identity. It allows them to relate to others   and be a victim SO you must ask yourself – Am I ready to let go of this   identity? Am I willing to see past my issue?
 
6. Do you see the benefit in the goal/change? Sometimes we don’t have   enough motivation to make a change because we don’t see enough benefits in it. Take some time to find out the benefits of the change? What good will come out of it? Do you need to re-evaluate your goal and change it up a little bit? dream bigger?
 
This January can be different then the others. You don’t have to feel stuck or not set any resolutions instead just be totally honest with yourself and set goals accordingly.
 
January Workshops;
Tuesday, January 14, 7pm – New Year, New You – Free   Event Jefferson Township Public Library, NJ Telephone:   973-208-6244   Thursdays (January 21 thru February 20) at 1pm    – Emotional Wellness Series Rutgers University,   NJ Telephone: 732-932-7233 ext 4200   Friday, January 17, 1pm –    Food and Your Mood – Free Event Oakville Senior Center,   CT Telephone: 860-945-5250   Wednesday, January 22, 6:30pm   – New Year, New You Hofstra University, Long   Island Telephone: 516-463-7200   Thursday, January 23, 7pm –    Re-Train Your Brain for Positive Thinking – Free   Event Hillsborough Public Library, NJ Telephone:   908-369-2200   Saturday, January 25, 1-4pm – Wellness Event   with Discovery Wellness Center Westminster Hotel, Livingston,   NJ For more info: 973-796-3760   Thursday, January 30, 7pm –    Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress Robbinsville   Public Library, NJ Telephone: 609-259-2150
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About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang is a Therapist, educator, author and life coach. Diane has two books: Baby steps the path from motherhood to Career and Creating balance & finding happiness. Diane works as a Therapist and also is an adjunct at Montclair State University. This blog will help educate and empower you to live your best life! For more information please visit her website: www.dlcounseling.com
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3 Responses to New Years done right

  1. joedalio says:

    Thank you for these excellent tips! I will say that my problem is usually not January, it’s maintaining the optimism and challenge after that. For me THAT will be different this year 🙂

    • Thanks for sharing! I agree it’s keeping the optimism going all year. I started a spiritual practice which has helped me maintain my optimism and resiliency all year. I start my day with gratitude, prayer and meditation then working out. It made a HUGE difference in my overall happiness

  2. anne says:

    Moving forward is what it is about

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