New Years resolutions & fear



New Year’s resolutions and fears – Monday challenge – stop the fear!


New years resolutions- for a resolution to work it must become a habit. This takes time it can take from 3 weeks to a few months and most people give up by then. Almost 88% of people give up on resolutions.


Fear is a major reason why people give up. Fear is such a powerful emotion it can override our priorities/goals we set for the New Year or anytime of the year.

We can have a fear of failure, success or just fear of change.

Stepping outside our comfort zones stops my clients in their tracks before their resolution becomes   a habit.


Here are some ways to overcome fear and have a successful start of the New Year.


1. Fear is an emotion so feel it. Feel your fear; accept that you have fear by facing it, being honest with yourself.

 I’m scared of________!   


When you feel and face your fears then you can move forward

To face your fears and move forward ask yourself:


1. Is the fear I’m facing really so bad? Scary?

2. What is the worse case scenario?


Most of my clients go through these questions; which is challenging the fear and they are able to   see clearly it’s not so bad so they can go out and face their fears and reach their goals for the New Year. These questions help you realize that a lot   of time we exaggerate our fears.


2. Choices – we get fears from our past decisions/mistakes BUT realizing we have choices opens up   a new world of possibilities. We can choose to learn from our past mistakes. Mistakes are teachable/learnable moments. So, we can look at our past mistakes   and Choose to make a better decision.


3. Know that change is normal and unavoidable. It will take you outside your comfort zone which is scary BUT look at the big picture and what the change will bring you at the   end. Look at the benefits of the change. What positive will come out of the   change?

For example: If I lose weight- I will have more energy, I will feel better, less pain,   etc.


4. Fear causes stress/anxiety so learn to relax by deep breathing, meditation, yoga,   etc.

Start your day with a few minutes of gratitude followed by deep breathing and/or meditation. This   will start your day off on a good foot forward. It prepares you to handle any   stress that comes your way.


5. Be secure in you   – to remove fear, work on improving your self-esteem.

Watch the words you use such as: I can’t, I won’t. Maybe, I should, I could, etc.   

Change those words   to: I can, I will, I want to, I choose to, etc.


6. Start your day with positive affirmations – instead of listening to the negative inner critic   fight back with positive affirmations that you repeat all day


I ‘am Loved

I am abundant

I am healthy and whole

Or whatever affirmations you choose


Wednesday, January 22, 6:30pm – New Year, New   You Hofstra University, Long Island Telephone:   516-463-7200   Thursday, January 23, 7pm – Re-Train Your   Brain for Positive Thinking – Free Event Hillsborough Public   Library, NJ Telephone: 908-369-2200   Saturday, January 25,   1-4pm – Wellness Event with Discovery Wellness   Center Westminster Hotel, Livingston, NJ For more info:   973-796-3760   Thursday, January 30, 7pm – Declutter Your   Life & Reduce Stress Robbinsville Public Library,   NJ Telephone: 609-259-2150     

February 2014

Monday, Feb 3, 1pm – Happiness – Living an Optimistic   Lifestyle Mount Saint Mary College, Newburgh, NY Telephone:   845-565-2076   Tuesday, February, 4 7pm – Living Your Best   Life – Free Event Levittown Public Library, Long   Island Telephone: 516-731-5728   Thursday, February 6, 6:30pm –    Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress – Free   Event Totowa Public Library, NJ Telephone:   973-790-3265   Tuesday, February 18 – 12;30 – Living Your   Best Life Brookdale Community College, NJ Student Wide   Event   Wednesday, February 19, 10am – Living Your Best   Life Women’s Connection Brunch   Thursday, February 20,   7pm – Re-Entering the Workforce Union County College,   NJ Telephone: 908-706-7601   Saturday, February 22, 10am –    Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress Brookdale   Community College, NJ Telephone: 732-224-2303   Wednesday,   February 26, 6:30pm – What Kind of Smart Are You – Personality   Testing Hofstra University, Long Island Telephone:   516-463-7200   Thursday, February 27, 7pm – What Kind of   Smart Are You – Personality Testing Ramsey Adult school,   NJ Telephone: 201-327-2025

About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email
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