New Year’s resolutions and fears – Monday challenge – stop the fear!
New years resolutions- for a resolution to work it must become a habit. This takes time it can take from 3 weeks to a few months and most people give up by then. Almost 88% of people give up on resolutions.
Fear is a major reason why people give up. Fear is such a powerful emotion it can override our priorities/goals we set for the New Year or anytime of the year.
We can have a fear of failure, success or just fear of change.
Stepping outside our comfort zones stops my clients in their tracks before their resolution becomes a habit.
Here are some ways to overcome fear and have a successful start of the New Year.
1. Fear is an emotion so feel it. Feel your fear; accept that you have fear by facing it, being honest with yourself.
I’m scared of________!
When you feel and face your fears then you can move forward
To face your fears and move forward ask yourself:
1. Is the fear I’m facing really so bad? Scary?
2. What is the worse case scenario?
Most of my clients go through these questions; which is challenging the fear and they are able to see clearly it’s not so bad so they can go out and face their fears and reach their goals for the New Year. These questions help you realize that a lot of time we exaggerate our fears.
2. Choices – we get fears from our past decisions/mistakes BUT realizing we have choices opens up a new world of possibilities. We can choose to learn from our past mistakes. Mistakes are teachable/learnable moments. So, we can look at our past mistakes and Choose to make a better decision.
3. Know that change is normal and unavoidable. It will take you outside your comfort zone which is scary BUT look at the big picture and what the change will bring you at the end. Look at the benefits of the change. What positive will come out of the change?
For example: If I lose weight- I will have more energy, I will feel better, less pain, etc.
4. Fear causes stress/anxiety so learn to relax by deep breathing, meditation, yoga, etc.
Start your day with a few minutes of gratitude followed by deep breathing and/or meditation. This will start your day off on a good foot forward. It prepares you to handle any stress that comes your way.
5. Be secure in you – to remove fear, work on improving your self-esteem.
Watch the words you use such as: I can’t, I won’t. Maybe, I should, I could, etc.
Change those words to: I can, I will, I want to, I choose to, etc.
6. Start your day with positive affirmations – instead of listening to the negative inner critic fight back with positive affirmations that you repeat all day
I ‘am Loved
I am abundant
I am healthy and whole
Or whatever affirmations you choose
Monday, Feb 3, 1pm – Happiness – Living an Optimistic Lifestyle Mount Saint Mary College, Newburgh, NY Telephone: 845-565-2076 Tuesday, February, 4 7pm – Living Your Best Life – Free Event Levittown Public Library, Long Island Telephone: 516-731-5728 Thursday, February 6, 6:30pm – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress – Free Event Totowa Public Library, NJ Telephone: 973-790-3265 Tuesday, February 18 – 12;30 – Living Your Best Life Brookdale Community College, NJ Student Wide Event Wednesday, February 19, 10am – Living Your Best Life Women’s Connection Brunch Thursday, February 20, 7pm – Re-Entering the Workforce Union County College, NJ Telephone: 908-706-7601 Saturday, February 22, 10am – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress Brookdale Community College, NJ Telephone: 732-224-2303 Wednesday, February 26, 6:30pm – What Kind of Smart Are You – Personality Testing Hofstra University, Long Island Telephone: 516-463-7200 Thursday, February 27, 7pm – What Kind of Smart Are You – Personality Testing Ramsey Adult school, NJ Telephone: 201-327-2025