What do I want to do when I grow up?

 What do I want to do when I grow up?

This is the most popular question I get asked for ages 35 and up. It is part of the mid-life transition.
 Now, that I’m an empty nester – what do I want to do with my career?
Now, that my kids are older and I don’t have to provide for them anymore what  do I want to do? Do I want to switch careers? is my career fulfilling my purpose/meaning in life?
These are typical questions during the transition. Remember, when we are going through a transition, its an ending and a new beginning. So, as one phase of your life ends like being a full time stay at home mom or a full time provider, a new phase begins. This is exciting news but can be scary and overwhelming.
When answering the question: What do I want to do when I grow up?
Leave your fear at the door.
Quiet your mind through meditation, deep breathing, exercise, etc.
Release the negativity by writing out on a piece of paper and then letting it go.
In mid-life, we are our happiest when our career gives us a sense of meaning. We really feel a strong passion towards helping others in this time of our life.
Ask yourself:
Do you feel like something is missing in your career right now such as passion? purpose?
Are you ready to change your path? what will it take to do this?
Accept where you are at this moment – this gives you a place to start. 
Decide what isn’t working in your life- make a list of what isn’t  working in your life. Is it your career? relationships? family? etc. – This gives you a point of where to start making the changes.
We can’t realize our true career path until:
1. We stop looking for acceptance/approval from others and accept ourselves for who we are
2. Look for what brings true passion to our life not what others say we should do?
3. Most of my clients say they found their true calling when they were open to letting life flow and were willing to take risks/try new things.
4. Realize, that your new career doesn’t have to be this HUGE thing. We don’t need to heal or cure everyone we can make a difference starting with 1 or 2 people. You can make a big impact doing what you love even if its one person at a time.
If your not sure what you want to do:
Write 1 or 2 sentences that would explain the change you want to see in the world.
Example: I have a friend who wants to see every animal have a forever home – that gave her a starting place.
I had a client who had a substance abuse problem for many years which caused a Traumatic Brain injury – he decided he wanted to educate others about the consequences of substance abuse to teens. This gave my client a sense of purpose/meaning.
The sentences you write will give you a clue of what kind of work you want to do/what your passionate about.
So, what do you want to do when you grow up?
February workshops:

Tuesday, February 18 – 12;30 – Living Your Best Life
Brookdale Community College, NJ
Student Wide Event
Wednesday, February 19, 10am – Living Your Best Life
Women’s Connection Brunch- not open to public

Thursday, February 20, 7pm – Re-Entering the Workforce
Union County College, NJ
Telephone: 908-706-7601
Saturday, February 22, 10am – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress
Brookdale Community College, NJ
Telephone: 732-224-2303
Wednesday, February 26, 6:30pm – What Kind of Smart Are You – Personality Test
Hofstra University, Long Island
Telephone: 516-463-7200
Thursday, February 27, 7pm – What Kind of Smart Are You – Personality Test
Ramsey Adult school, NJ
Telephone: 201-327-2025
Friday, February 28, 1pm – Aging Gracefully – Free Event
Oakville Senior Center, CT
Telephone: 860-945-5250

For more information visit: dlcounseling.com

About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang is a Therapist, educator, author and life coach. Diane has two books: Baby steps the path from motherhood to Career and Creating balance & finding happiness. Diane works as a Therapist and also is an adjunct at Montclair State University. This blog will help educate and empower you to live your best life! For more information please visit her website: www.dlcounseling.com
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2 Responses to What do I want to do when I grow up?

  1. anne says:

    Excellent amount of ideas thanks anne

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