Positive Parenting – helping your children learn

 Positive Parenting – helping your children learn
 
Being a positive parent is so important. Kids learn through observation, role modeling and imitation. While your words are important, kids tend to follow our actions. One of the most important tools we have in teaching our children is our actions/behaviors. Make sure your words and actions are saying the same thing or we can confuse our children.
 
Tips to teaching kids through actions
 
1. If you want your kids to have good study habits show them as well as tell them. Let them see you reading a few nights a week. I have shared books with my daughter. When we read the same books, we can discuss the plot and characters together but just having your kids see you reading is a great way to emphasis the importance and fun of reading.
 
2. Teach them math by not using a calculator. Most of us adults pull out our phones for the calculator BUT what if we figured out math the old fashioned way by pulling out a piece of paper and pencil – what would be teaching our kids?
 
3. Bring your kids to the library instead of having them google everything. Let them go to the library and learn all the possibilities that exist.
 
4. Don’t give out answers immediately. Kids are expecting instant gratification due to technology. Everything is at their fingertips which has its advantages but also disadvantages. Make your kids work for their answers, teach them to critical think and problem solve. This will help kids to think on their own.
 
5. Teach kids communication through family dinners – remove all technology and make it a table full of conversation. This means everyone gets to discuss their day ( both kids and parents) and everyone gets involved by listening and responding. Lets bring back family dinners. I know this can be tough with everyone’s busy schedule so even if you can only do this a few times a week, make it a priority for those days.
*Family dinners allow kids to voice their opinions, feelings and thoughts in a safe, warm environment. Share this opportunity to hear them by being an active listener. Being an active listener is another great tool parents have. If we our active listening our kids see we care through:
Eye contact
Non verbal facial and hand gestures
Asking questions
Summarizing what you just heard
Acknowledging what they said and how they felt
Are you an active listener?
 
6. Teach kids gratitude at the dinner table – along with conversation start or end each meal by going around the table and having everyone say what they are grateful for. It teaches appreciation and also de-stresses everyone. Gratitude is a form of meditation so the whole family can reap the benefits.
 
7. Teach your kids kindness by doing random acts of kindness with your kids or in front of them. It can be as simple as a smile, saying hello or giving a compliment that can make a difference in someone’s life.
 
8. Show them respect for the environment – plant a tree or a garden, go for a walk in the park, have a pet, volunteer at an animal shelter. Whatever works for you and your family that helps encourage your child to respect nature and animals.
 
9. Self-care is so important for a parent. If we don’t take care of ourselves and don’t feel our best, kids will see this. If we don’t take care of ourselves we are teaching our kids its ok to not invest in self-care.
 
Actions speak louder then words BUT with parenting it’s best if the actions and words matched.
 
 
The school of Positive Living – join me at one of my workshops!
 

March 2014
Tuesday, March 4, 6pm – Re-Train Your Brain for Positive Thinking – Leadership Certificate Program
Adelphi University, Long Island
Telephone: 516-877-3603
 
Thursday, March 6 – April 3, 1pm – Declutter Series
Rutgers Freehold Campus
Telephone: 732-932-7233
 
Saturday, March 8, 10am – Happiness- Living an Optimistic Lifestyle
Brookdale Community College, NJ
Telephone: 732-224-2303
 
Sunday, March 9, 1:30pm – Super Goal Sunday – Conference for Women over 40
Hofstra University, Long Island
Telephone: 516-463-7200
 
Monday, March 10, 6:30pm – Re-train Your Brain for Success
Warren Community College, NJ
Telephone: 908-835-2333
 
Wednesday, March 12, 7pm – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress
Morris Hills Adult School, NJ
Telephone: 973-662-2295
 
Monday, March 17, 7pm – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress
Parsippany Adult School, NJ
Telephone: 973-263-7180 ext 3015
 
Wednesday, March 19, 7pm – I’am Enough
Morris Hills Adult School, NJ
Telephone: 973-664-2295
 
Saturday, march 22, 10am – Re-train Your Brain for Success
Brookdale Community College, NJ
Telephone: 732-224-2303
 
Monday, March 24, 7pm – Letting Go of Anger
Union County College, NJ
Telephone: 908-709-7606
 
Wednesday, March 26, 6pm – Letting Go of Anger
Hofstra University, Long Island
Telephone: 516-463-7200
 
Thursday, March 27 & April 3, 6:30pm – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress
Princeton Adult School, NJ
Telephone: 609-683-1101
 
Monday, March 31, 7pm – Re-train Your Brain for Success
Ramsey Adult School, NJ
Telephone: 201-327-2025
 
April 2014
 
Wednesday, April 2, 7pm – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress
Paramus Community School, NJ
Telephone: 201-261-7800
 
Monday, April , 7pm – Mindfulness
Westfield Community School, NJ
Telephone: 908-232-4050
 
Wednesday, April 9, 6pm – Letting Go of Anger
Sussex Community College, NJ
Telephone: 973-300-2140
 
Monday, April 14, 6:30pm – Dealing with Stress
Main Morris County library, NJ
Unemployment group meeting
 
Wednesday, April 16, 6pm – I’am Enough
Hofstra University, Long Island
Telephone: 516-463-7200
 
Monday, April 21, 7pm – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress
Westfield Community School, NJ
Telephone: 908-232-4050
 
Wednesday, April 23, 7pm – Creating Balance & Finding Happiness
Morris Hills Adult school, NJ
Telephone: 973-664-2295
 
Thursday, April 24, 6pm – Dealing with Loneliness
Sussex Community College, NJ
Telephone: 973-300-2140
 
Monday, April 28 & Monday May 5, 6pm – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress
Sussex Community College, NJ
Telephone: 973-300-2140
 
Tuesday, April 29, 7pm – Positive Thinking
Emerson Community School, NJ
Telephone: 201-262-5502
 
Wednesday, April 30, 7pm – I’am Enough
Ramsey Adult School, NJ
Telephone: 201-327-2025

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About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang is a Therapist, educator, author and life coach. Diane has two books: Baby steps the path from motherhood to Career and Creating balance & finding happiness. Diane works as a Therapist and also is an adjunct at Montclair State University. This blog will help educate and empower you to live your best life! For more information please visit her website: www.dlcounseling.com
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