The power of hitting rock bottom

I have learned through my own personal issues that sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom to turn things around. I have had clients who have come to me at their worst and it was only at this time, that they finally were able to make a change. Instead of looking at rock bottom as the worst case scenario think of it as the end of a bad phase with a new start right around the corner. For most people rock bottom gives them the power to make changes, better choices and start fresh.
Seven reasons why there is power in hitting rock bottom
1. Hitting rock bottom teaches you what you don’t want so you can figure out what you do want.
2. Rock bottom caused me to be desperate for a new life. It was the motivation to make changes. It forced me to make changes I would of never done otherwise.
3. Rock bottom makes us vulnerable. This vulnerability allows you to find more happiness in your life by being more open, being courageous and taking risks. Most people don’t allow themselves to be vulnerable but hitting rock bottom brings you to a place of vulnerability.
4. Rock bottom forces you to accept where you are.You have no other control left in your life but to accept your situation. Acceptance is the start of change. Once we accept, we start to let go of all the pain and suffering that comes from holding on to what no longer serves us.
5. Rock bottom taught me to depend on myself. It taught me that I was the most important person in my life. It taught me that without self love there is nothing else.
* Sometimes “YOU” is all you have!
6. Rock bottom forces you to ask all those self-inquiry questions you have been avoiding. Questions such as:
Who am I?
What is my true purpose/meaning?
What are my strengths? Passions?
7. Rock bottom was the first time I ever asked for help. Rock bottom brings you to the place of knowing –  I need help and the vulnerability you were afraid to show is broken. Asking for help is not a weakness, it is a sign of strength and courage. We can’t heal all alone. We all need each other.
Remember the #1 factor for happiness is Socialization!
Rock bottom teaches us so many life lessons, are you paying attention? If not, hitting rock bottom will become a pattern for you. It’s a choice – did I take the time to learn from my situation?
Sometimes rock bottom is just what the doctor ordered and the only way back to finding your happiness.

About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email
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3 Responses to The power of hitting rock bottom

  1. anne says:

    So so good so so true it takes courage love to start the good change

  2. jamesjgentilesco says:

    I will give my commentary on the “…hitting rock bottom” post.

    I view “hitting rock bottom” as something that is, potentially, ongoing. In fact, if we aren’t “hitting rock bottom” on a regular basis, we may be playing “too small a game”. Anything worth going after will require us to “fail” many times before “arriving”. To know “what doesn’t work” (as soon as possible) can be a great blessing–as it allows us to gather use our resources more productively.

    They are the lucky ones who “hit rock bottom” frequently; for they are up to something in their lives. But others can go a whole lifetime without ever “hitting rock bottom”; they just go on believing whatever they believe (even though it doesn’t work, even though they aren’t getting the desired results time after time); to “hit rock bottom” means that we have an opportunity to see “what doesn’t work” and therefore to divert our focus to “what possibly does work.”

    Those who haven’t “hit rock bottom” are those for whom it may take a long time before they get that “it’s not working”. “Hitting rock bottom” can force us to come to new decisions. It’s part of the learning process. How will we come to know “what works” except in relation to “what doesn’t work”? It may even be advantageous to ourselves to “hurry along” “hitting rock bottom”; and that is to say that we play the beliefs, etc. out fully and immediately to know, for sure, whether they work or not–instead of playing a less than sober game in life, where we’re just 50/50, on the fence in life, “wishy-washy”. (We should play out beliefs out fully–so that we will soon know how *not* to do things!)

    I agree that it often takes “hitting rock bottom” before any real progress can be made–as certain beliefs are hung onto out of a plain need “to be right about something”, to uphold an identity of sorts.

    I think we should challenge the “status quo” (after we’re able to see it clearly via acceptance, etc.).

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