the power of acceptance

The power of acceptance

 Sometimes the only power left we have is to accept and let go. When we look at things in our life that are out of our control and there is nothing left we can do to fix it or to change it then we feel powerless. The best thing we can to is to regain our power. To do this, we must first let go of the need to change it or fix it. We must let go of resistance. If we keep resisting the change, we will stay stuck. We will stay in a spot (the gray spot) where we are no longer at the old phase but can’t get to our new start. This area otherwise known as the gray area is a time that most of us will feel stuck and powerless. We can use this area in a few different ways.

  1. We can use it as a teachable/learnable moment – what can I learn from my past experience? What changes do I want to make for a smooth transition?
  2. We can use it as a time for self-inquiry and reflection – we can take the time to ask questions such as: where do I want to go? What does my new chapter of life look like? What habits/patters do I keep repeating that no longer serve me?
  3. We can stay stuck and in fear- in most cases, if we stay stuck for too long we end up back in our old habits/patterns which leads us to being stagnate. This can also lead to depression.

Instead, it’s time to let go of our past experience and old chapter of life. Look at the clues/signs that are going on in front of you that will help lead in you in the right direction. Follow your intuition to help make better choices. Let go of your resistance and accept where you are at this very moment, this is true acceptance. You have let go and accepted your place for now! I use the word “Now” at the end of the sentence because acceptance does not mean the situation and/or how you are feeling is permanent. It means where you are at this current time. Once, we let go and accept; things can change. Resistance is gone, the power is brought back.

So, when all else fails and your feeling completely powerless. Take it back by letting go and accepting where you are so you can move forward.


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About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email
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3 Responses to the power of acceptance

  1. jamesjgentilesco says:

    I find it challenging at times to simply “let go and let God”. In practice, accepting what we (apparently) don’t want can be difficult. It seems that we’re just “giving into the status quo” then.

    “Acceptance” is easy to talk about, not so easy to do in my experience. I guess because “acceptance” seems to imply (or is linked to) “failure” or “giving up”. (How can we make “acceptance” occur for us as something beneficial?)

    • I don’t look at acceptance as failure or giving up. When I let go and accept a situation, change can begin. In personal experiences, the only time I have felt a sense of peace was when I finally let go and accepted my situation. Staying in resistance was only causing me more pain and suffering.

      • I feel like acceptance is showing strength. Your able to accept something you can’t change. That’s tough and being able to accept is a sign of strength and courage. It’s also knowing that you can’t control anyone but yourself, the situations you put yourself in and how you react to situations. We need to stop trying to control everything. It just sets us up for failure.

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