Finding yourself using mistakes

 Finding yourself using mistakes  

To really find yourself you must be able to ask yourself honestly:  

1. What are my biggest struggles?

2. What are my biggest challenges within myself?  

I know for me just learning to trust my own inner voice has been a huge struggle. Developing a loving relationship with myself has been a roller coaster ride of emotions including anger and fear. I have gone from hating myself, to being afraid of my own shadow to liking myself and eventually loving myself. We all have a love/hate relationship with ourselves. The place to start to really finding your true self is starting with our biggest mistakes.

Write down a few of your biggest mistakes – this is for you only, no-one has to see this. Now look at these mistakes but with a different perspective then before. Stay away from ” I’m a failure, this always happens to me, why me,etc.” Instead look at your mistakes from the learning perspective.

Ask yourself these questions instead:

  1. What can I learn from this mistake?

2. What was this mistake trying to tell/teach me?

3. What did this mistake wake me up to? sometimes our biggest mistakes make us aware of what we really should be doing. Mistakes are “Awareness” moments. They awaken us to our strength, our deepest fears and our strongest desires.  

Learning to take responsibility for our mistakes/failures is huge. When we use mistakes/failures as teachable moments, we stop playing the victim. We can take responsibility for our part of the mistake/failure which gives us the power to turn the mistake/failure into a gift. Yes, a mistake can be a gift, a gift of development, growth and change.

* Mistakes humble us into knowing we really don’t know that much at all

* Mistakes give us permission to ask questions of ourselves that seemed totally off limits before but make complete sense now

 * Mistakes give us determination and motivation to do better, be better and want better for ourselves. * A mistake can awaken us into our next phase of life

* A mistake can be the final straw that forces us to shift our perspective just to avoid rock bottom.    

When we dive head first into our mistakes, we are given the opportunity to be vulnerable. To feel the hurt our mistakes have caused us but not to stay in victim mode. If you keep in the cycle of making mistakes over and over without taking the time to learn and grow, you will stay stuck forever in the vicious cycle of failure. No mistake is ever a failure if you have learned and grown from it.  

Very excited to be part of the program below. Please pass it on if you know someone this would apply to. 





Presented through a Grant from the United Way of Hunterdon County.

MONDAY, MAY 19, 2014

10:00 am – 1:00 pm

84 Park Avenue, Suite E103 Flemington, NJ

Call 908-788-1453 to Register

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About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email
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