Coaching yourself for success
Finding a great coach can be so helpful in your pursuit for change and setting goals. They hold you accountable and help you set realistic goals and actions plans. But there are some things you can do on your own to get started and help you go through the transition smoothly.
6 coaching tips
- Are you willing and ready to change? I always ask my clients that question when we first start. You can’t help someone if they aren’t ready or willing to commit. Be honest with yourself – are you really ready to make a change and do the work to get there? Why are you ready? What is the motivation/desire behind your commitment?
- What is the change you want to make? Stick with one change/goal at a time. We don’t want to become overwhelmed and procrastinate. It’s ok to start small. Remember, you’re doing one change/goal at a time because your life is still going on. So, while your accomplishing your goal, you still need to raise a family, go to work, take care of your house, health, etc.
When you know the change then write it down in detail. Journal writing helps make the goal real.
Visualize the change – when we can see it, it brings clarity to our vision. How would the change look like? How would I feel? Would my change affect others? How would my life be different?
- Where are you in relation to this change? On a scale of 1-10. 10 being the ultimate place of accomplishment and change, where are you? For example, if you feel your only at a 3 (maybe you took a few steps towards your goal) what would you need to do to get to a 4 or 5 which would make you closer to your goal? How would you feel? Every time I move up a step I feel a little better. I have clients take small steps.
- Obstacles –When we take action towards our goals we must remind ourselves that we will have some obstacles. Some typical obstacles are:
*Lack of support – not everyone in your life might agree or like the change you’re making. I had a client who was a stay at home mom and decided to look for a full time job. Her kids were upset by the news.
* Fear of success or failure will come up – every time we step outside of our comfort zone, it causes us to feel uncomfortable which causes fear. Be aware of it but don’t let it stop you.
* Realistic time management and goal setting – we know to do 1 change at a time but we also have to look at our time and life pressures. I had a client who wanted to find a new full time job which was her long term goal. We set up short term goals but instead of making them weekly goals, we made them biweekly. As a single mom of two, working full time, she would have been overwhelmed with weekly goals but biweekly was doable.
- When faced with obstacles and you feel like giving up do this visualization exercise. What would my life look and feel like if I didn’t accomplish my goal or make a change? What if I decided to live my next few years without the change or accomplishment of my goals? A lot of my clients realize that is worse. Staying stuck or in an unhappy situation is unacceptable and that gives them the motivation to move forward.
- Support – very important to have a support system. Whether it’s a friend or family member or finding someone in your situation. For some support can mean a coach or therapist.
Its the Monday of a brand new month – isn’t it time to start your change?
For more information please visit Diane’s website: www.dlcounseling.com