Bullying at Camp
Its that time of year. Kids are starting camp. Camp is supposed to be a great time for kids. An escape from their status at school, a retreat from the everyday and a place to form new friendships while having fun. Unfortunately, there can be bullying at camps. Below are some tips on talking to your child if he/she are getting bullied at camp or school.
Talking to your child about bullying
1. Always listen to your child. Be an active listener. This includes eye contact, non verbal hand gestures and facial expressions that show your listening. Your child might become emotional, be prepared and let them know its ok to express their emotions. They need a trusting outlet.
2. Believe your child – don’t re-questions them or not believe them. This will cause them more hurt and they won’t trust you or come to you in the future. If you want to form trust show belief and support.
3. Be patient – your child might not be ready to open up yet or to open up fully. Don’t pressure them or get mad. Just let them know you are there for them when they are ready. Your child might be feeling ashamed or embarrassed so don’t push.
4. Be supportive – tell your child its not their fault and they don’t deserve to be bullied. This will help empower your child. Be positive. Tell your child how important and loved they are. Give them praise for telling you.
5. Provide information to your child on how to deal with bullying such as:
Try to never walk alone, being in a group reduces bullying
Don’t run away from the bully – walk away slowly
Tell an adult immediately
Don’t show emotions to the bully, this just encourages their negative behavior. Have your child express their emotions when they are safely away from the bully.
Teach your child to respond to the bully by saying NO! Stop it! in a firm, loud tone and then to turn and walk away.
6. Talk to the camp or the school about what is going on. Tell the camp/school what exactly happened, when, where and who did the bullying. The parents and the school/camp need to be a team. Keep on top of the school/camp – check in often and make sure something is being done.
7. Pull your child from a situation if it’s not in the best interest of the child. Its not always best to stick it out and put the child through the bullying.
8. Help build your child’s confidence by praising your child, putting your child in activities/events that uses their strengths and raises their self-esteem. Let your child know your proud of them. Remind them it’s not their fault, they are not to blame. Children can take being bullied personally and can start to feel like a victim.
9. If the child is being cyber bullied, tell your child to not respond to any of the texts, emails, etc and to tell an adult immediately.
Therapist, Educator and Life Coach Diane Lang has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally. A therapist and educator of Positive Psychology, she has seen that it can provide a strong foundation for finding great happiness and is gratified that it is becoming a mainstream method of treatment.
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