Writing your story

We all have our own story. Our autobiography when written out can show us a lot about ourselves. The story expresses who we are today, where we have been, what beliefs and habits we picked up on the way and who we think we can be. Your story will have both positive and negative chapters. The ups and downs of our lives show us that we are all survivors and no matter how far we have fallen, we always get up and push on. Just knowing that is very inspiring and motivating. When we take time to look at the negative chapters in our lives, we can use these chapters as teachable/learnable moments. We can read through these chapters with the questions:

What can I learn?
What was the lesson? Did I receive it? Or do I keep repeating the negative patterns?
How can I grow? What changes can I make?
A lot of our beliefs and habits we picked up are from our childhood and we hold onto them until we decide to challenge them and re-evaluate those beliefs. To challenge any belief or habit, you want to ask yourself the following questions:

Is the belief true? It might have been true or useful when you were a child but is it still working for you today?
Do you keep repeating this pattern or holding on to the negative belief? If so, why?
What need is being met? Sometimes it is easier to continue on with old limiting beliefs/habits due to fear.

If the belief isn’t true or realistic – what changes can I make?
Your past chapters don’t have to stop you from changing in the future. You have the ability to be aware of your limiting beliefs and create new beliefs just by challenging the old ones.

Taking some time to write out your story is a great tool and one we should all do. Even if you have written your story before it’s good to add to it, your story is always growing and changing.

Five tips to writing out your story.

Get a journal or notebook to write your story in.
There are no rules. There is no right or wrong. Your story is your story, don’t judge it just learn from it. Your story is what makes you unique.
You don’t have to write your whole life out or in chronological order. You can write what’s relevant to you, the situations/events that shaped you.
Don’t plan to write it all in one day. Take time to write bits and pieces each day.
Writing your life story can be uncomfortable or even painful. It brings up past memories that you have repressed but also remember that writing your story is healing.

About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email dlcounselingmedia@gmail.com
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