Are you Happy?

Are You Happy?
By: Diane Lang
I was talking with a client about happiness and asked her if she was happy? Its the hot topic we have been working on for months. My client claimed that lately she has been feeling: Stuck, Unhappy and just Blah.
The truth is our happiness levels go up and down like a roller coaster and to expect we will always have up swings is an unrealistic expectation that sets us up for failure.  We must remember while down/blah that things will go up again.
We also all have different levels of happiness genetically. I like to call it our happiness set point. Some of us are genetically more happy then others but the good news is we can all be happier then we are today.
 So, when feeling; Stuck, blah or unhappy do a self-evaluation and ask yourself:
Are my relationships good? healthy?
How is my career going? Is it time for a change?
How are my finances?
Marriage and Family?
Health? Are my basic needs met?
Personal life and self care?
For happiness to be felt we have to look at our lives from the big picture. When you answer the questions above, you might realize that marriage, family, relationships, etc are all good but your personal time doing hobbies and self-care are low. This will give you the knowledge you need to make changes.
When we have feelings of stuck/stale, blah, unhappiness, etc they are signs that something needs to change. It doesn’t have to be something big. Don’t be afraid of change. The only constant in our life is change.
For my client. we went through the list and realized that she worked over 50 hours a week not including commute, she has 2 kids and a husband that she is always worried about and taking care of plus the typical chores like housework, laundry, food shopping, cleaning etc.  She realized she never scheduled anytime for herself. She didn’t negotiate chores to others. She needed some quality “Me” time. This is exactly what we worked on scheduling in to her life.
Ask yourself: Are you happy? If the answer is yes, then great continue on. If not, then ask yourself the above questions and find what areas of your life need some tweaking.

ABOUT DIANE LANG:   Diane Lang – Positive Living Expert, life coach and psychotherapist – is a nationally recognized speaker, author, educator, therapist and media expert. Lang is extremely mediagenic and offers expertise on a variety of health and wellness topics about creating balance and finding happiness through positive living as well as multiple mental health, lifestyle and parenting needs. In addition to holding multiple counseling positions, Diane is also an adjunct at Montclair State University.

Lang has been interviewed for numerous magazine and newspaper articles and has been a frequent guest on radio and TV shows including “Fox & Friends” on the Fox News Network. Lang a regular featured expert on the “Expat Show” broadcasted weekly on the New York ABC affiliate WTBQ-AM, and a Blogger. 

Lang speaks to employees of large companies to help reduce stress in the workplace and speaks to parents about how to create balance and find happiness along with a variety of other health and wellness topics. For rates, please contact Diane at:

Diane is also the author of two books: “Baby Steps: The Path from Motherhood to Career” and “Creating Balance and Finding Happiness.

About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email
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