By: Diane Lang

What do you believe about yourself?
Write down 8-10 ways you would describe yourself? such as roles, religion, gender, occupation, age,etc.
What do you believe about each description?
Example: I’m 46 years old and to me this is middle age which means old. So, I Started feeling old, fearful of getting old, feeling like I look really old. These beliefs are shaping the way I age.
We do this with ever description of our life.
When you do this exercise, you can see the patterns in your life, how your beliefs shape who you are and why you act and feel a certain way.
Now let’s get deeper in this exercise.
Look at your beliefs that you just wrote down and ask yourself:
Where did this belief come from?
Is the belief even true? (just cause you think it, doesn’t mean it’s true.)
Is the belief realistic? Does this belief work for you or is it a limiting belief? Is this belief holding you back?
Is it time to change this belief?
With beliefs come a set of expectations. Using my example about aging from above. I can say my belief on age has shaped my feelings on my looks and also has caused a fear of aging.
With beliefs come an identity and a label you put on yourself which puts you in a box.
For example: If your belief is your stupid then it will cause you to have a label: “I’m stupid”, which causes expectations such as” I can’t go back to school” or  I can’t get a degree”, etc.
Your identity/label can shape your life by having a huge impact on all the choices/decisions you make in your life.
The good news is you can release these limiting beliefs and clear a new path for new beliefs, possibilities and opportunities.
When we remove these limiting beliefs, we remove the label and the box we have put ourselves in, we become free. We can now grow and develop.
Your beliefs can cause us to feel stuck.
Your beliefs effect your perceptions of yourself and life in general.
If I believe the world is full of good people then I will see the good and search out the good but if I see the people as bad, this is what will appear in my life.
How do you see yourself and the world we live in?


Diane Lang – Positive Living Expert, life coach and psychotherapist – is a nationally recognized speaker, author, educator, therapist and media expert. Lang is extremely mediagenic and offers expertise on a variety of health and wellness topics about creating balance and finding happiness through positive living as well as multiple mental health, lifestyle and parenting needs. In addition to holding multiple counseling positions, Diane is also an adjunct at Montclair State University.
Lang has been interviewed for numerous magazine and newspaper articles and has been a frequent guest on radio and TV shows including “Fox & Friends” on the Fox News Network. Lang a regular featured expert on the “Expat Show” broadcasted weekly on the New York ABC affiliate WTBQ-AM, and a Blogger.

Lang speaks to employees of large companies to help reduce stress in the workplace and speaks to parents about how to create balance and find happiness along with a variety of other health and wellness topics. For rates, please contact Diane at:

Diane is also the author of two books: “Baby Steps: The Path from Motherhood to Career” and “Creating Balance and Finding Happiness.

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Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email
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