Dealing with the holiday blues

The Holiday Blues: 

By: Diane Lang 
The holidays are portrayed as a time of joy and love but for some, it’s a time of stress and depression. Believe it or not, the holidays can be one of the most depressing times of the year.  The holiday blues can be triggered by overeating, unrealistic expectations, over drinking, lack of time, seasonal changes, loneliness, conflict with family, etc.
Here are some of the signs of the holiday blues:
Financial stress
Loss of interest in socialization and activities that were once pleasurable
Low energy
Change in eating and/or sleep habits
Physical symptoms such as stomach problems, headaches, grinding teeth, etc.

 If you’re starting to notice the holiday blues, here are a few tips to help you find some holiday cheer!

1. Are your expectations for the holiday season realistic?   We look at social media, watch the holiday shows and we set our expectations to match what we are seeing. Instead take the holiday season, one day at a time and just enjoy the present moment.
When we set unrealistic expectations or compare ourselves to others, we end up feeling worse.

 2. Support System: This is the time to keep in touch with loved ones. If you can’t meet in person, spend some time chatting over the phone.

3. Extra Support: If you notice a pattern of the holiday blues then prepare by setting up a professional support system for the holidays. Whether it’s a therapist or life coach, make sure your support system is intact for the holidays.

 4.  Let go of the unimportant things: Don’t worry about the things that really don’t matter like the having all the holiday decorations, the perfect place settings or the perfect gift. Instead remember what’s truly important – connecting to others!

5. Triggers: Prepare for the holiday season by knowing what and who triggers your stress or brings up past baggage. Set up limitations and boundaries that are healthy for you.

 6. Pay it Forward: We feel better when we help others so take some time this holiday season to do random acts of kindness for friends and family members. Volunteering is another way to lift your spirits and others. It’s a win-win!

 7. Schedule: Keep your schedule/routine. When we stay in our routine, we feel a sense of comfort and normalcy. Keep your exercise and meditation routine or any other daily rituals that keep you grounded.

 8. Don’t beat yourself up during this time of year: Actually, try to never do this. For many of us, the dreaded self talk we have is on autopilot. We don’t even notice or pay attention to these negative thoughts. For this holiday season and new year, let’s change that. Be aware of your negative self talk and remind yourself to stop it! When I hear my negative thoughts, I say to myself: Stop! These thoughts do not serve me.

 Happy Holidays!!

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Diane Lang – Positive Living Expert, life coach and psychotherapist – is a nationally recognized speaker, author, educator, therapist and media expert. Lang is extremely mediagenic and offers expertise on a variety of health and wellness topics about creating balance and finding happiness through positive living as well as multiple mental health, lifestyle and parenting needs. In addition to holding multiple counseling positions, Diane is also an adjunct at Montclair State University.
Lang has been interviewed for numerous magazine and newspaper articles and has been a frequent guest on radio and TV shows including “Fox & Friends” on the Fox News Network. Lang a regular featured expert on the “Expat Show” broadcasted weekly on the New York ABC affiliate WTBQ-AM, and a Blogger.

Lang speaks to employees of large companies to help reduce stress in the workplace and speaks to parents about how to create balance and find happiness along with a variety of other health and wellness topics. For rates or to book Diane Lang contact
Diane is also the author of two books: “Baby Steps: The Path from Motherhood to Career” and “Creating Balance and Finding Happiness.

About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email
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