Life Priorities

Life Priorities: 
By: Diane Lang
I decided to take on the challenge of setting priorities. Setting priorities has been a challenge of mine for a long time. Making a priority list is about simplifying your life and picking and choosing between all the important things you need to get done each and every day. Setting priorities will help you identify what’s most important to you and help you with your time management, organization and balance.
Setting Priorities:

1. Take some time to write in a journal what your life priorities are? These are all the projects/tasks you are trying to accomplish at this moment? Example: being a mom, going back to college, working, friends, marriage, etc. With each thing you write down ask yourself: Why is it important to you and what do you want to accomplish?

2. Now it’s time to prioritize. To pick out what should be a priority and where it fits on you’re priority list ask yourself these questions:

*Is there a time limit? If it needs to be done ASAP, it will work its way to the top of the list.
*Pick 3 priorities you want to really work on and stay focused on those priorities
*Is it just filler/busy stuff? We add filler stuff to our priority list as a procrastination tool. I do this a lot. I put a lot of non-important things on my list, this makes me feel busy but I’m never working on what’s really important to me.
* After each priority ask yourself; what can I do now to get it done? You can write out an action plan if needed.
* If you didn’t accomplish the priorities on your list what would be the consequences? This question will help you decide which priorities are the most important.

3. After your priority list is made then set up short and long term goals with an action plan to reach your goals. Make your goals realistic to your lifestyle. Start with small goals. When you take baby steps, your goals seem more doable. You don’t feel overwhelmed and stressed out. Every time you accomplish a goal you will feel positive reinforcement which will motivate you to move on to your next goal.

4. Set priorities with things you can control. We tend to work on things we have no control over which sets us up for failure. Make sure your priorities are attainable and realistic.

5.    Priorities are always changing which is why you need to re-evaluate your
 Priorities and make changes as needed.
6. Self-care- make yourself a priority. We have many roles; we are moms, sisters, wives, friends, caregivers, etc. This is a lot of responsibility. For us to handle all these roles in our lives, we need to be at our healthiest. The best way to do this is to make sure your basic needs are met. Make sure your getting enough sleep (around 8 hours), drink enough water (this does not include coffee, tea and soda), eat properly and get exercise. The best way to see which needs aren’t met is to keep a journal for one week. In this journal keep track of how much water you drink, how much sleep you get, your diet and exercise routine. At the end of the week, you will be able to make the changes your body needs. If your basic needs aren’t met you will be off cognitively and will not be able to make the best decisions or live your best life. You can’t feel balanced and optimistic if you’re not healthy.
 7. Visualize your goals. You have taken the time to write down your goals and
 prioritize your goals now it’s time to visualize them. You can’t achieve your goals, if you can’t see the finished product. Imagine your goals in great detail. See your goals in full color, use your senses, have fun!
8. Control and perfectionism. If you have either of the two traits or both this can lead to depression, isolation, low self-esteem, low productivity and creativity. These traits set you up for failure and undermine your goals. Instead, ask for help and delegate your chores. It’s unrealistic to think we can do it all and perfectly. You will always feel unbalanced if you’re trying to do it all. Example: Order out. It’s okay to have Pizza or Chinese food once in awhile. Yes, it’s important to eat healthy, but it’s also important to give yourself a break. Order that pizza and then enjoy the quality time with your family. Make it a full night of ease and comfort. Use paper plates and paper cups for the night. After dinner, you will have time to relax. WOW! What a concept.

9. Mistakes are good, they are teachable moments. We cant be successful without taking a jump – a leap of faith within ourselves. Mistakes give us a feeling of accomplishment for trying. A sense of strength knowing fear didn’t stop you and the knowledge that we are all human and as many times as we jump is as many times there is a chance that you might fail and/or make a mistake. Mistakes make us aware that we are not perfect. Once we realize we are only human, we can let go of our perfectionist ideas and let the pressure melt away. We don’t have to set ourselves up for failure by expecting perfection or wanting to be perfect all the time. We can actually go enjoy ourselves knowing we aren’t perfect.

10. Learn to say no! One of the biggest reasons we don’t feel balanced and feel overwhelmed is because we say yes when we mean no. Every time we do this we set ourselves up for failure. The minute we say yes, we start the vicious cycle.  First we say yes (but mean no) and we become angry at ourselves for saying yes. During the day we become angry, stressed and nervous that we won’t be able to complete the task we said yes to. After we finally finish the task and it’s all done we start feeling guilty. We feel guilty for getting angry and upset because it all worked itself out. What we need to realize is that every time we do this we become stressed out and unhappy. The best way to handle the problem is to say no. When you say no, you are showing yourself respect and making yourself a priority. Remember, it’s okay to say no.
A Few Other Tips:

-Does the way you spend your time match your priority list?

-Are you accomplishing the priorities you set up for yourself or living someone else’s dreams?

-Set priorities that will help with the whole picture. Example: If you’re looking for a job and your top value is family then you want a job that allows you to put your family first.

-Keep reminders around the house, work, etc of your priorities. Example: if you’re trying to lose weight keep a copy of the diet on your refrigerator, at your job, etc. This will help keep you focused.

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Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email
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