My grief comes with fear

By: Diane Lang
Grief  brings up  a lot of emotions, but the one I feel the most is fear. When we encounter a loss of any kind, we can find ourselves stuck in constant fear because our comfort zone and norm has been shaken. The life we have known has been taken away from us without any preparation or planning.
Life has become uncertain. and uncertainty is what brings fear to the surface. It leaves us feeling vulnerable. We correlate vulnerability to weakness and the harsh words of judgment pop up in our minds over and over again. We can’t find the door that leads to our old comfortable life and there is no escape route so here we stay in our grief and fear.
Our best is to let go of the resistance and feel the fear and grief. That also includes all the emotions that come with it. Don’t run away from your feelings. If we try to avoid or deny them, we will prolong the pain and fear. When we remove the resistance, we release the stress and frustration.
 Accept that this moment this is where you are but that doesn’t mean it means forever. It’s just where you are today. Tomorrow offers new hope and opportunities.
We all feel grief, we all go through changes and this will always cause fear. How long we hold on to the fear is up to us?
Remember, we have options. We can choose, to stop the resistance and accept our situation, feel the emotions that come with true acceptance and know that tomorrow is a new day.

MAY + JUNE 2017
Monday, May 15th, 7pm – Positive Psychology – Finding Your Happiness
Westfield Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-443-9222

Thursday, May 18th, 10:30am – Dealing with Loss
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

Tuesday, May 23rd, 6:30pm – Create Balance & Relieve Anxiety
Totowa Public Library, NJ
Phone: 973-790-3265

Wednesday, May 24th, 10:30am – Positive Psychology- Finding Your Happiness
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

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Friday, June 2nd, 10:30am – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress
Montclair Adult School, NJ
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Monday, June 5th, 12th & 19th, 6pm – Emotional Wellness
Warren Community College, NJ
Phone: 908-835-9222

Tuesday, June 13th, 6:30pm – Life after Retirement
Mount Saint Mary College, NY
Phone: 845-565-2076

Friday, June 16th, 3pm – Dealing with Negative People
Bridgewater Public library, NJ
Phone: 908-526-4016

Monday, June 26th, 6pm – Positive Psychology- Finding Your Happiness
The Center for Conscious Care giving, NJ
Phone: 732-864-5508

As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist,

About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email
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