Only work on changing you

Only Work On Changing You:
By: Diane Lang
Stop trying to change others. When we stop trying to change others, we stop the frustration.  The one constant in life is change. Even if you try not to change your life, changes will happen. They occur naturally as we age. Our bodies change naturally and so does life around us. We don’t have control over a lot of things in our life such as the weather, economy, other people, etc, but you have control over yourself and how you react. You have control over acceptance. We don’t have to like or remain in situations but we do have to accept others for who they are. The best advice I received many years ago when I started in the field was: if someone shows you who they are, believe them!
Don’t try to change them or think they will change if you show them the light. People choose to change when they are ready, want to and for many it’s not till they hit rock bottom. The part we must remember is everyone’s rock bottom is different. My rock bottom is different then many of my clients and there have been times I have watched clients go through things that were so horrible, I couldn’t imagine it not being there rock bottom but it wasn’t. Rock bottom is an individual thing. I have seen clients become paralyzed, lose their family, friends and all their money over addiction and that wasn’t there rock bottom. The good news is when we finally do hit our rock bottom it creates the need to change. There is power in rock bottom. What we need to learn is we don’t need to go so far down till become the person we want to be.
So we must remind ourselves to stop trying to change others, to stop expecting change from anyone besides yourself.

June 2017:
Monday, June 26th, 6pm – Positive Psychology- Finding Your Happiness
The Center for Conscious Care giving, NJ
Phone: 732-864-5508
As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.
Through her two books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness” and “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career.”  Diane has been speaking and empowering parents and adults nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement.
As an expert in her fields of therapy, Lang has been featured in the Daily Record, Family Circle, Family Magazine, Working Mother Magazine and Cookie Magazine, seen on NJ 12 TV, Good day CT, Style CT, The Veira Network, CBS TV and “Fox & Friends”.  She has also participated in a reality based Internet show,, hosted Generation X-tinet. In addition Lang writes a blog for
DL Counseling, Route 206, Flanders, NJ 07836
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About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email
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