The Fear behind Grief

 The fear behind grief comes from our fear of never being healed.
– We think of healed as cured.
– We think if we reach “healed”, all is well.
– What we tend to forget is that there will be triggers for the rest of our lives.
– Those triggers will bring us grief and fear all over again.
– So we are never fully healed/cured.
– Stop expecting to be healed, the expectation sets us up for failure.
– Instead. think of life as part of the healing process.
– Think of it as a roller coaster. We are up when we feel somewhat healed. when we are down. we wonder if we will ever feel normal again. This roller coaster ride causes us to evaluate “What is normal? Was I ever normal? Would I even want to be?”
-When we go through loss, our identity shifts and we are no longer the person we were before the loss.
– The type of loss doesn’t matter, all loss leads to a shift in our identity.
– We grow and change from loss. That’s the one norm we can expect.
– Stop expecting to be fully healed.
– Stop expecting healing to be done in a specific amount of time.
– Stop expecting to be the person you were before the loss.
– Instead embrace the feelings from the loss.
– Embrace the changes and growth that comes with the loss.
– Let go and accept your new situation, it’s the only way to release the resistance.
– Remember, we are all in the healing process everyone has encountered loss, you are never  alone.

August 2017

Tuesday, August 1, 6pm – Create Balance & Relieve Anxiety
Russell Library, CT
Phone: 860-347-2528
Thursday, August 3, 6:30pm – Prioritize Your Life
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224
Tuesday, August 15, 10:30am – Positive Aging
Mount Saint Mary College, NY
Phone: 845-565-2076

About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email
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