The fear behind grief comes from our fear of never being healed.
– We think of healed as cured.
– We think if we reach “healed”, all is well.
– What we tend to forget is that there will be triggers for the rest of our lives.
– Those triggers will bring us grief and fear all over again.
– So we are never fully healed/cured.
– Stop expecting to be healed, the expectation sets us up for failure.
– Instead. think of life as part of the healing process.
– Think of it as a roller coaster. We are up when we feel somewhat healed. when we are down. we wonder if we will ever feel normal again. This roller coaster ride causes us to evaluate “What is normal? Was I ever normal? Would I even want to be?”
-When we go through loss, our identity shifts and we are no longer the person we were before the loss.
– The type of loss doesn’t matter, all loss leads to a shift in our identity.
– We grow and change from loss. That’s the one norm we can expect.
– Stop expecting to be fully healed.
– Stop expecting healing to be done in a specific amount of time.
– Stop expecting to be the person you were before the loss.
– Instead embrace the feelings from the loss.
– Embrace the changes and growth that comes with the loss.
– Let go and accept your new situation, it’s the only way to release the resistance.
– Remember, we are all in the healing process everyone has encountered loss, you are never alone.