The Connection between Empathy and Mindfulness

The Connection Between Empathy and Mindfulness:
By: Diane Lang

 

Each person has their own story created by their past, their perspective, learned traits and fear. We need to understand everyone’s story is different. Everyone’s story contains fear, struggling, hurt, sadness, etc.

Even though everyone’s story is different, we are all doing the best we can with the story we have and most of us pretend everything is ok even when it’s not.
Eventually,the cracks appear and the negativity comes leaking out. We are all human and go through this. We all have cracks in our life.

A Mindfulness technique would be to notice everyone around you and empathize. Everyone is suffering or has suffered and the future will hold more of it. We all have circumstances in our lives that we can’t change. These circumstance will come out of no where and leave us shocked, scared and hurt. They will change our lives, we will become vulnerable and scared.
When we realize we are all connected, all human and all suffer we can find more empathy with each other.
When we feel the hurt, anger, judgment rise into our throats then we must take a minute to breathe and ask ourselves is the action or response I’m about to take based on love or fear?
We have a moment between our impulse to act/react and before we take action. What will you do with that moment, is the important question? This is my hardest task. I can mentally feel I don’t want to act or that I will regret it but I do it anyway because I let fear over ride my decision making. I need to work on these moments and when I do, I feel more at peace and make better choices.

In that brief moment between impulse and action,the story flashes in front of us. The story we have been telling ourselves based on our past that we’re not good enough or worthy enough and we take action without slowing down enough to think is my action based on love or fear? Take the extra time and you will be mindful. Be mindful of what your feeling at the moment both physically and emotionally. Be mindful means feeling the emotions but doesn’t mean to just react or be impulsive.

October 2017 workshops open to the public

Monday, October 2, 7pm – What Kind of Smart Are You?
The Adult School of Westfield, NJ
Phone: 973-443-9222
Tuesday, October 3, 10:30am – Positive Aging
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224
Thursday, October 5, 7pm – Letting Go of Anger & Finding Forgiveness
Ocean County College, NJ
Phone: 732-255-0404
Tuesday, October 10, 6:30 – Positive Psychology – Finding Your Happiness
Caldwell Continuing Education, NJ
Phone: 973-228-2092
Wednesday, October 11, 7pm – Mindfully Happy – Waking Up to Life
Morris Hills Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-664-2251
Thursday, October 12, 6:30pm – Re-Train Your Brain for Success
Ocean County College, NJ
Phone: 732-255-0404
Monday, October 16, 7pm – Finding Fulfillment over 50
Morris Hills Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-664-2251
Tuesday, October 17, 9:30am – Positive Education
Rutgers University, NJ
Phone: 848-932-7520
Tuesday, October 17, 6:30pm – Positive Psychology – Finding Your Happiness
Caldwell Continuing Education, NJ
Phone: 973-228-2092
Thursday, October 19, 6:30pm – Positive Psychology – Finding Your Happiness
Ocean County College, NJ
Phone: 732-255-0404
Monday, October 23 & 30, 10:30am – Mindfully Happy – Waking Up to Life
Mount Saint Mary College, NY
Phone: 845-565-2076
Monday, October 23, 7pm –  Mindful Living
The Adult School of Westfield, NJ
Phone: 973-443-9222
Tuesday, October 24, 6:30pm – The Challenge of Change
Caldwell Continuing Education, NJ
Phone: 973-228-2092
Wednesday, October 15, 10:30am – The Challenge of Change
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224
Thursday, October 26, 7pm – Finding Your Passion
Morristown Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-292-2063

Bi

As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.

Through her two books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness” and “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career.”  Diane has been speaking and empowering parents and adults nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement.

As an expert in her fields of therapy, Lang has been featured in the Daily Record, Family Circle, Family Magazine, Working Mother Magazine and Cookie Magazine, seen on NJ 12 TV, Good day CT, Style CT, The Veira Network, CBS TV and “Fox & Friends”.  She has also participated in a reality based Internet show, ourprisoner.com, hosted Generation X-tinet. In addition Lang writes a blog for Pazoo.com

 

 

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About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang is a Therapist, educator, author and life coach. Diane has two books: Baby steps the path from motherhood to Career and Creating balance & finding happiness. Diane works as a Therapist and also is an adjunct at Montclair State University. This blog will help educate and empower you to live your best life! For more information please visit her website: www.dlcounseling.com
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