Is your natural default negative or positive?

Most of us live on autopilot. We are not very mindful of our thoughts because we are so busy just living our lives, going to work, paying bills, taking care of the home, etc.
It’s important to know what our belief systems are. To know what we think about even if we are so preoccupied, we are not fully paying attention.
It’s our subconscious thoughts that hold the key to our belief systems and what’s holding us back from living our best life.
Many of our days at spent with situations that bring up our default setting. Anytime someone criticizes you, judges you, hurts your feelings- what comes up for you? Write it down so you can be self-aware.
For most of us, we have beliefs that come up that sound like this:
I’m not worthy or lovable.
I’m not enough.
I don’t deserve it.
Of course this happened to me.
They are probably mad at me or I let them down, it’s what I always do. I never do anything right.

When you can’t fall asleep at night or you wake up in the middle of the night and can’t fall back asleep what thoughts immediately come up? Are these thoughts negative or positive?
If you are driving in the car and not focused on music or talk radio and you find yourself stuck in your thoughts – are they negative or positive?
It’s important to listen to your auto pilot beliefs, it shows whether your default is negative or positive?
When we notice our thoughts/beliefs are mostly negative, we stay in the negative, we focus on the negative, we notice only the negative.
What you think about is the life you have.
The good news is you choose your default.

Remember, beliefs are just thoughts we heard over and over again, it doesn’t mean they are based on truth or facts.
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About Diane Lang..

Therapist, Educator and Life Coach
As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.

Through her three books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness”, “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career” and “ Mindfully Happy- waking up to life.” Diane has been speaking and empowering people nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement.

As an expert in her fields of therapy, Lang has been featured in the Daily Record, Family Circle, Family Magazine, Working Mother Magazine and Cookie Magazine, seen on NJ 12 TV, Good day CT, Style CT, The Veira Network, CBS TV and “Fox & Friends”. She has also participated in a reality based Internet show,, hosted Generation X-tinet.


About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email
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