Whose Opinions should Matter

Whose Opinions Should Matter?
By: Diane Lang

We do take things personally. It’s the way we are hardwired as humans, so pretending you don’t care won’t be very helpful.
When we say “we don’t care”, it’s a lie that keeps us in more pain. We do care what others think but we need to sift through whose opinions we want to take to heart.
A few questions to ask yourself to find out who opinions should matter.
Why are they giving us their opinions/feedback -did we ask for it? Are they just being critical or judgmental or is there some constructive feedback given with love and caring?
Or is it really about themselves- are they jealous? angry with themselves? fearful?
Is this a person who is important to you? Why?
If you know the person loves you unconditionally and their thoughts are coming from a place of love, then, it should matter but that doesn’t mean you have to follow their advice.
Are these people who criticize and judge also taking risks? Are theses people who play it small and safe but judge you for stepping out? If so, let it go, their opinion isn’t important. It’s much easier to criticize and judge then be a risk taker.
A true risk taker wouldn’t criticize they would be helpful and give advice without judgment. Their goal would be to help you live your best life not destroy it.
Is this a toxic person to begin with? someone who is unhappy? negative? the victim? never responsible for their own actions?
Again, this person doesn’t have the right to criticize and you shouldn’t give them the opportunity or time to do it, walk away, actually run as fast as you can.
Don’t let these people’s words sink into your heart and soul. Leave before it has that chance to bring you down. We have enough of our own judgments and criticisms, we don’t need help from the people who aren’t willing to take their own chances and live their best life.
Ask yourself again why you even spend time with these people? Are you getting anything out of these relationships that is positive? If not, is this relationship worth keeping?
June 2019 – Events and Workshops – Open to the Public

Monday, June 3, 10:30am – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress
Mount Saint Mary College – Desmond Campus
Phone: 845-565-2076

Wednesday, June 5, 10:30am – Positive Aging
Mount Saint Mary College – Desmond Campus
Phone: 845-565-2076

Thursday, June 6, 6:30pm – Emotional Detox – Dealing with Negative People
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 Ext. 2224

Saturday, June 8, 4pm – Stress Less, Savor More
Purple OM, Denville, NJ
Phone: 973-343-2848

Tuesday, June 11 & 18, 6pm – Positive Aging
Warren Community College, NJ
Phone: 908 -835-2333

Wednesday, June 19, 10:30am – Mind, Body & Spirit – Finding Your Balance
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 Ext 2224

Saturday, June 29, 12pm – The Happiness Workshop
Long Hill Township Library, NJ
Phone: 908-647-2088

About Diane Lang..

Therapist, Educator and Life Coach
As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.

Through her three books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness”, “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career” and “ Mindfully Happy- waking up to life.” Diane has been speaking and empowering people nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement.

As an expert in her fields of therapy, Lang has been featured in the Daily Record, Family Circle, Family Magazine, Working Mother Magazine and Cookie Magazine, seen on NJ 12 TV, Good day CT, Style CT, The Veira Network, CBS TV and “Fox & Friends”. She has also participated in a reality based Internet show, ourprisoner.com, hosted Generation X-tinet.

For more information please visit: http://www.dlcounseling.com or email Diane at DLCounseling2014@gmail.com

 

About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang is a Therapist, educator, author and life coach. Diane has two books: Baby steps the path from motherhood to Career and Creating balance & finding happiness. Diane works as a Therapist and also is an adjunct at Montclair State University. This blog will help educate and empower you to live your best life! For more information please visit her website: www.dlcounseling.com
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