6 Tips to Raise your Self-Esteem

Raising Your Self-Esteem
By: Diane Lang

What does it mean to have healthy self-esteem? It’s having a good opinion of yourself that is realistic. Being that the most important opinion of yourself comes from yourself, it’s time evaluate: how do you feel about yourself?
Let’s be honest, the only opinion that should matter is your own but the problem is for many us our opinions are negative. We are our own worst critics.
When we have a negative view of ourselves, we can spend our lives looking for ways to justify the negativity and be condemned to a life of self-criticism.
This isn’t a healthy way to live. Instead, there are things we can do to raise our self – esteem.

6 tips to raise your self-esteem:

1. What are you thinking about? Start being conscious of your thoughts. What is that internal voice saying? To start the change process, you need to know what you think about yourself. Ask yourself where do these thoughts come from? How have these thoughts stopped your life? Lowered your self worth? After hearing these thoughts and repeating them to ourselves, they become auto pilot thoughts. We have them without even recognizing them anymore. These thoughts are learned. That’s the good news. If it’s learned, you can unlearn them.

*Start by thinking about: what kind of thoughts about yourself do you want to have? Make a phrase of what you want to feel and start repeating it daily. This will be adding positive affirmations into your routine.

2. The stick figure exercise.
Draw a stick figure of yourself or cut and paste a picture of you. On one side of the figure write your accomplishments. On the other side write down all your roles/descriptions. On the bottom write down your goals/dreams
You can look at the stick figure every time your feeling down and see how much you have accomplished, how much you do everyday and where your going. Add to it as things come up.
*You can also write a list of all the things you like about yourself and review it every morning.

3. Throw in some positive psychology exercises;
Gratitude – every night before bed, ask yourself: what are 2-3 things I’m grateful for that happen today?
2-3 things you did well today – every night after the gratitude exercise, ask yourself: what are 2-3 things I did well today?

4. The comparison game
Are you comparing yourself to others? The only person you should compare yourself to is who you were yesterday. If you notice comparing yourself to others, what’s triggering it? Is it toxic friendships/family members? If so, boundaries/limitations or a break up is in order.
Is it social media? Limiting your social media intake is very important.

5.Remind yourself of your strengths by taking a personality test. Everyone has different strengths. Knowing yours and using them can up our levels of happiness and self esteem.

6. Pay it forward -raises our self esteem and takes our mind off of ourselves while cultivating happiness. Doing for others gives us a sense of accomplishment and pride. These positive emotions cultivate happiness and give us a sense of value and meaning into our lives.

*Remember, self-care-because you are worth it!
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About Diane Lang…

Therapist, Educator and Life Coach
As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.

Through her three books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness”, “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career” and “ Mindfully Happy- waking up to life.” Diane has been speaking and empowering people nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement.

As an expert in her fields of therapy, Lang has been featured in the Daily Record, Family Circle, Family Magazine, Working Mother Magazine and Cookie Magazine, seen on NJ 12 TV, Good day CT, Style CT, The Veira Network, CBS TV and “Fox & Friends”. She has also participated in a reality based Internet show, ourprisoner.com, hosted Generation X-tinet.

For more information please visit: http://www.dlcounseling.com or email diane at DLCounseling2014@gmail.com

About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang is a Therapist, educator, author and life coach. Diane has two books: Baby steps the path from motherhood to Career and Creating balance & finding happiness. Diane works as a Therapist and also is an adjunct at Montclair State University. This blog will help educate and empower you to live your best life! For more information please visit her website: www.dlcounseling.com
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