What is balance? We always talk about work-life balance, but I think there is much more to balance then time management.
How do you define balance? It’s an individual statement that you need to think about and answer. I always thought balance was doing work you love with a life mixed with personal things you loved to do. When we spend our lives doing work we do not like or with hobbies/people we do not enjoy, we will feel unbalanced. Don’t get me wrong, I know we won’t love everything we do in life and there is just some shit we need to do but what if the majority of our life was based on purpose/meaning and love? Wouldn’t that create a more well-balanced life? A happier life?
I remember when I first started a side hustle of writing and speaking, my topic of choice was on moms re-entering the workforce. Mom’s would always ask: Should I go back to work? If I do, should it be part-time or full time? Should I work from home? My answer was always the same what is the “Why” behind the choice you make.
What type of career would make you the best mom? parent? person? It’s different for everyone. This is the question you should ask yourself to have a balanced life. Does your career make you be the best person you could be? Do the people you spend your quality time with lift you up? empower you? do your hobbies/extra activities bring you flow? enjoyment? pleasure?
If you can mix your professional life and personal life with things that give you purpose/meaning, enjoyment, fulfillment, and love then some of the other responsibilities we must do will not feel so bad. We will have a lot to look forward to. Sundays will not be a day of stress because we must go to work tomorrow. We will feel happiness/joy coming home after work and we will look forward to our free time to fill it with activities and people we love. That is what balance looks like to me.
I also think of balance as being my best self. It means letting go of unrealistic expectations.
It means being your true self even on days that you feel no one likes the real you and insecurity is taking over. If your busy trying to be someone else, you will never feel balanced. How could you when you haven’t been authentic or vulnerable? You cannot have loving relationships without authenticity and vulnerability. Balance means accepting yourself as you are today with the hope of being even better tomorrow. Hope moves us forward and helps us to take action. Balance means knowing the reason why you are doing something. Balance means doing your best work but not working all the time. Balance means putting yourself at the top of the priority list and taking care of your basic needs such as sleep, diet, and exercise. Balance means taking time off to refuel and reboot. Balance means removing things from your life that no longer serve you. Balance means getting rid of the mindset that is negative, harsh, and judgmental. Balance is self-care which is a mix of self-love and self-compassion.
Take some time this week to define balance for yourself. We are slowly going back to a life after quarantine. I know for me; I want my post covid-19 life to be much better than my life pre-covid 19.
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