Emotional Detox

Emotional Detox:
By: Diane Lang
When entering an emotional detox, it’s important to know why?
What do you want to get out of this? Removing toxic people, releasing emotions and healing, becoming more mindful, less stressed, etc.
What is your goal? When you know why it will be easier to stay on track when it gets tough. You might feel depressed, low energy, fatigue, sadness, etc. During this time “the why” will help you see the big picture.
Pay attention to what emotions have been coming up to cause you to go on this emotional detox. When we decide to do a detox/cleanse with food, we do it because we feel low energy, fatigue, physically ill, stomach problems, skin problems, etc. We want to feel better physically and remove the toxins.
The same idea for an emotional detox, what emotions keep coming up that caused you to remove the toxic from your life? For me, it was anger. I noticed, I was getting angry easier and more often then normal and my patience was running very thin.
10 Steps to Emotionally Detox:
1. Unplug from technology – email, phones and media.
2. Remove toxic people.
3. Write it out- free writing every morning or every night. Write out what’s weighing on your mind.
4. Exercise to remove the negative energy and trade it in for a positive state of mind.
5. Time in nature- more vitamin D and fresh air.
6. Release the pain – admit what you are feeling. We must feel to heal. We can feel it by talking to someone, writing it out, therapy, a good cry and release. It doesn’t matter how as long as you feel and release.
7. Forgiveness for yourself and others.
8. Pamper yourself – write down a list of self care activities and schedule them in
9. Following your instinct from your gut not your brain- start paying attention to how you are feeling physically. Start noticing where you hold your emotions physically. Start paying attention to your soul voice, the inner voice that comes up naturally without putting any thought into it.
9. What’s your addiction/crutch? Mine is chocolate. We use our addiction to avoid our feelings. We can’t release our emotions if we can’t feel them. We must feel to heal. So what are you using to avoid feeling – food, alcohol, shopping, caffeine, smoking, etc?
Every time I want a piece of chocolate instead of just reaching for a candy bar, I ask myself: What do I really want? What am I truly feeling? If I’m eating chocolate for emotional reasons, it’s time to visualize the stop sign and ask myself what I’m truly craving emotionally.
When we release the crutch, the emotions will start to flow. It will be painful but worth it.
10. Declutter and simplify your life – we don’t need all the clutter. Clutter just adds more stuff, more filler and more noise.

July 2017 Workshops Open to the Public

Wednesday, July 12 through July 26, 6pm – 3 week class – Positive Psychology – Finding Your Happiness
Warren Community College, NJ
Phone: 908-835-2333

Thursday, July 13, 10:30am – Power of Positive Thinking
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

Tuesday, July 18, 10:30am – Mindful Living
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

Monday, July 24, 6pm – Positive Psychology – Finding Your Happiness
The Center for Conscious Caregiving, NJ
Phone: 732-864-5508

August 2017 Workshops Open to the Public

Tuesday, August 1, 6pm – Create Balance & Relieve Anxiety
Russell Library, CT
Phone: 860-347-2528
  
Thursday, August 3, 6:30pm – Prioritize Your Life
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224
 
Tuesday, August 15, 10:30am – Positive Aging
Mount Saint Mary College, NY
Phone: 845-565-2076
As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.
Through her two books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness” and “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career.”  Diane has been speaking and empowering parents and adults nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement.
As an expert in her fields of therapy, Lang has been featured in the Daily Record, Family Circle, Family Magazine, Working Mother Magazine and Cookie Magazine, seen on NJ 12 TV, Good day CT, Style CT, The Veira Network, CBS TV and “Fox & Friends”.  She has also participated in a reality based Internet show, ourprisoner.com, hosted Generation X-tinet. In addition Lang writes a blog for Pazoo.com.
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Only work on changing you

Only Work On Changing You:
By: Diane Lang
Stop trying to change others. When we stop trying to change others, we stop the frustration.  The one constant in life is change. Even if you try not to change your life, changes will happen. They occur naturally as we age. Our bodies change naturally and so does life around us. We don’t have control over a lot of things in our life such as the weather, economy, other people, etc, but you have control over yourself and how you react. You have control over acceptance. We don’t have to like or remain in situations but we do have to accept others for who they are. The best advice I received many years ago when I started in the field was: if someone shows you who they are, believe them!
Don’t try to change them or think they will change if you show them the light. People choose to change when they are ready, want to and for many it’s not till they hit rock bottom. The part we must remember is everyone’s rock bottom is different. My rock bottom is different then many of my clients and there have been times I have watched clients go through things that were so horrible, I couldn’t imagine it not being there rock bottom but it wasn’t. Rock bottom is an individual thing. I have seen clients become paralyzed, lose their family, friends and all their money over addiction and that wasn’t there rock bottom. The good news is when we finally do hit our rock bottom it creates the need to change. There is power in rock bottom. What we need to learn is we don’t need to go so far down till become the person we want to be.
So we must remind ourselves to stop trying to change others, to stop expecting change from anyone besides yourself.

June 2017:
Monday, June 26th, 6pm – Positive Psychology- Finding Your Happiness
The Center for Conscious Care giving, NJ
Phone: 732-864-5508
As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.
Through her two books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness” and “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career.”  Diane has been speaking and empowering parents and adults nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement.
As an expert in her fields of therapy, Lang has been featured in the Daily Record, Family Circle, Family Magazine, Working Mother Magazine and Cookie Magazine, seen on NJ 12 TV, Good day CT, Style CT, The Veira Network, CBS TV and “Fox & Friends”.  She has also participated in a reality based Internet show, ourprisoner.com, hosted Generation X-tinet. In addition Lang writes a blog for Pazoo.com.
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Finding meaning in your life

Finding Meaning In Your Life:
By: Diane Lang
In a world filled with social media and so much focus put on being the best, a lot of us find ourselves feeling less than and trying to fit into the mold of success according to society. Even though success is an individual thing, society has put its standards out there and a lot of us try to accomplish these standards even if it’s not making us happy. Don’t get wrapped up in the notion that meaning has to be something like being famous. We don’t find more meaning because of a paycheck or a title. What we do becomes more meaningful when we realize we impacted someone’s life. It’s the thank you notes, the smiles, the words of appreciation that makes us feel a deep sense of meaning.

We can find meaning in two different ways. Finding a deeper meaning of life – why am I here? What’s my purpose. What’s important to me?  What legacy do I want to leave?

These are important questions in the big picture. Having purpose and meaning in our lives, helps give us direction, pick a career, lead us towards our interests and how we want to help the world.

We can also find meaning in our daily lives. Ask yourself: How can we make a difference in small ways each day? How can you make someone’s life a little easier today? Touch someone’s life?
To find meaning in every day life, look at each day as a day filled with opportunities and possibilities to use your gift, make someone smile, share your legacy, connect with others and contribute to humankind in small ways.

For some, work gives us meaning and purpose. For others, work pays their purpose. I have a client who wants to rescue dogs but needs money to see this dream come to fruition. She strongly believes her purpose is to take care of stray animals. Her job allows her to live out this purpose which brings great joy and meaning to her life.

If you know the purpose of your life which gives your life meaning then you must ask yourself are you living in accordance to this purpose?

 True meaning is taking your purpose/gift (the reason why you are here) and sharing it with others.

When you know your purpose, you need to continue to grow and learn, to challenge yourself, to take risks, this keep our purpose fresh and exciting.

What’s your purpose?
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Cultivating Happiness ebook

Cultivating Happiness: 7 Steps To A Happier Life:
 
I’m so excited to announce that B&N is selling my eBook!
Click on the link to be sent directly to the page!
Cultivating Happiness: 7 Steps To A Happier Life

We all want to be happy but can we be happier then we are today? What makes us happy? What changes can we make in our life to be healthier and happier?Learn new ways of thinking and behaving that will make your life happier such as gratitude, kindness, meditation, etc.Learn the steps you can take now that will make a huge difference in your life.
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Life is Messy

Life Is Messy:
By: Diane Lang 
Life is messy.
There is no one mood.
I’m not always happy or down.
I don’t always love myself. Some days, I’m so down, I can’t imagine making it through another day.
Other days, my life feels great and I find myself excited about life.
Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason, life just brings me situations and circumstances that I have no control over and I feel helpless and hopeless.
Then something inside me clicks, I shift and I feel hope.
This is life.
It’s not smooth.
Some days its unbearable
But I always know it will get better.
Don’t have any expectations or assumptions on life.
Don’t compare your life to others because every life works the same way- days of pain and days of joy.
It’s a journey so if you are feeling down now, you will be lifted again.
If you’re in an up cycle, enjoy it, there will be dark days ahead.
It’s a complete circle.
Those dark days bring learning, strength and growth.
The joyful days bring enjoyment and fun.
Each mood and day has a purpose.
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Surrounding yourself with positive people

Surrounding Yourself With Positive People:
By: Cristina B.
Keeping good company is a very important thing. Sometimes we surround ourselves with people who can inspire us, and sometimes we surround ourselves with people who drain us! We have to be mindful of who we choose. Being selective and picky about who choose to be in our lives isn’t selfish! Putting ourselves first should be a priority too!
Here are some tips about staying positive and keeping positive people in our lives:
 
1.) Think About The Type Of People You Attract: Who do you like to make friends with? What things do you have in common? Friendships should inspire you to do different things, but one thing is certain: Make sure that after you hang out, you don’t leave feeling drained.
2.)  Be The Good You Wish To See In Others: Of course we want to have inspiring and happy people in our lives, but we must do the same for others if we want to receive that attitude as well!
3.) “If You See Something Beautiful In Someone, Speak It.” It’s always nice to feel and be complimented, we should do the same for those in our lives. You never know what that could do for someone else.
4.) “Close Your Eyes And Imagine The Best You Possible. That’s Who You Really Are. Let Go Of Any Part Of You That Doesn’t Believe It.” Always strive to be the best you YOU could be. And be the best you for everyone else.

June 2017:

Monday, June 5th, 12th & 19th, 6pm – Emotional Wellness
Warren Community College, NJ
Phone: 908-835-9222

Tuesday, June 13th, 6:30pm – Life after Retirement
Mount Saint Mary College, NY
Phone: 845-565-2076

Friday, June 16th, 3pm – Dealing with Negative People
Bridgewater Public library, NJ
Phone: 908-526-4016

Monday, June 26th, 6pm – Positive Psychology- Finding Your Happiness
The Center for Conscious Care giving, NJ
Phone: 732-864-5508

As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.
Through her two books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness” and “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career.”  Diane has been speaking and empowering parents and adults nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement.
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Your happiness is not for sale

Your Happiness Is Not For Sale:
By: Diane Lang

-You can’t take away my happiness.
-It’s not for sale.
-We seem to give our happiness away In hopes of feeling acceptance and approval from others
-But now I know that all we do is give up our power, when we give away our happiness.
-It’s time to take back your power.
-It’s a choice – your happiness, your power, your life.
-It’s making decisions that value your self
-It’s making choices based on love not fear, the love you have for yourself.
-Your happiness is no longer a part of you that your willing to give away like an old pair of shoes. It’s part of your identity and here to stay.
-Remember you are not responsible for anyone’s happiness but your own!

JUNE APPEARANCES 2017: 
Friday, June 2nd, 10:30am – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224
 
Monday, June 5th, 12th & 19th, 6pm – Emotional Wellness
Warren Community College, NJ
Phone: 908-835-9222
 
Tuesday, June 13th, 6:30pm – Life after Retirement
Mount Saint Mary College, NY
Phone: 845-565-2076
 
Friday, June 16th, 3pm – Dealing with Negative People
Bridgewater Public library, NJ
Phone: 908-526-4016
 
Monday, June 26th, 6pm – Positive Psychology- Finding Your Happiness
The Center for Conscious Care giving, NJ
Phone: 732-864-5508
As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.
Through her two books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness” and “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career.”  Diane has been speaking and empowering parents and adults nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement.
As an expert in her fields of therapy, Lang has been featured in the Daily Record, Family Circle, Family Magazine, Working Mother Magazine and Cookie Magazine, seen on NJ 12 TV, Good day CT, Style CT, The Veira Network, CBS TV and “Fox & Friends”.  She has also participated in a reality based Internet show, ourprisoner.com, hosted Generation X-tinet. In addition Lang writes a blog for Pazoo.com.
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