What if money grew on trees

What If Money Grew On Trees?
By: Diane Lang

What if money grew on trees? Maybe not trees, but what if we didn’t think money was so unattainable and realized we are all abundant?

What if miracles happened frequently? They absolutely do, you just need to notice them!

What if fear was man made? Imagine your life without fear.

What if life was meant to be lived in the moment? The past is a teachable moment and the future is always a step ahead of you. All we have is the present.
What if your gifts and purpose in life were given to you to share with others?
What if you could see five years into the future and you were using your gifts to serve the world- what would it look like?

What if the world was a beautiful place? It is. All you need to do is look around you.

What if you were enough, lovable and worthy? You are.

What if stress was a tool to move us forward? How do you see stress? Our perspective on each situation will make it either stressful or not.

What if you stepped outside your comfort zone? What would it look like on the other side?

What if I was my true authentic self? Imagine the world without a mask on, the weight off your chest and just living as is?

What if I didn’t have to go to a place of worship to find my connection to god but instead realized that your higher power (God) is found within. That means you are always connected to the source.

What if I believed most people were good? Would I mostly see the world from a glass half full perspective? How would that change my life?

MAY 2017 workshops:

Monday, May 8th, 7pm – What Kind of Smart Are You / Finding Your Passion

Basking Ridge Community School, NJ

Phone: 973-443-9222

Tuesday, May 9th, 7pm – Managing Stress

Watchung Public Library, NJ

Phone: 908-561-0117

Monday, May 15th, 7pm – Positive Psychology – Finding Your Happiness

Westfield Adult School, NJ

Phone: 973-443-9222

Thursday, May 18th, 10:30am – Dealing with Loss

Montclair Adult School, NJ

Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

Tuesday, May 23rd, 6:30pm – Create Balance & Relieve Anxiety

Totowa Public Library, NJ

Phone: 973-790-3265

Wednesday, May 24th, 10:30am – Positive Psychology- Finding Your Happiness

Montclair Adult School, NJ

Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

Diane’s Short bio:

As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.

Through her two books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness” and “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career.” Diane has been speaking and empowering parents and adults nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement. For more information please visit Diane at http://www.dlcounseling.com or email Diane at Lifeline36@aol.com

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Living your truth

Living your truth: Asking yourself the important questions,

What’s your truth?

What do you struggle with?

What’s your biggest fear(s)?

What do you hold back, afraid of others not liking you?

What dreams did you never go after because of fear?

Are you living the life you really want? Or is it someone else’s dream like your parents or society?

Where are you taking the easy way out?

Who are you trying to fix? Control?

If you lived your truth, how would it affect everyone around you? Is that the fear that holds you back and makes you feel stuck?

If you took off your mask and lived your truth, how would your life change?

May 2017:

Monday, May 1st, 10:30am – Emotional Detox – Dealing with Negative People

Mount Saint Mary College, NY

Phone: 845-565-2076

Tuesday, May 2nd, 7pm – Dealing with Negative People

Morris Hills Adult School, NJ

Phone: 973-664-2295

Wednesday, May 3rd, 7pm – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress

Morristown Community School, NJ

Phone: 973-292-2063
hursday, May 4th, 6:30pm – Positive Psychology – FInding Your Happiness

Roxbury Public Library, NJ

Phone: 973-584-2400

Monday, May 8th, 7pm – What Kind of Smart Are You / Finding Your Passion

Basking Ridge Community School, NJ

Phone: 973-443-9222

Tuesday, May 9th, 7pm – Managing Stress

Watchung Public Library, NJ

Phone: 908-561-0117

Monday, May 15th, 7pm – Positive Psychology – Finding Your Happiness

Westfield Adult School, NJ

Phone: 973-443-9222

Thursday, May 18th, 10:30am – Dealing with Loss

Montclair Adult School, NJ

Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

Tuesday, May 23rd, 6:30pm – Create Balance & Relieve Anxiety

Totowa Public Library, NJ

Phone: 973-790-3265

Wednesday, May 24th, 10:30am – Positive Psychology- Finding Your Happiness

Montclair Adult School, NJ

Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

For more information please visit http://www.dlcounseling.com or email lifeline36@aol.com

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  What If? What would change if I lived like today was the most important day of my life and that it could be my last? If I lived today with awareness. Would the snow that was falling matter? Would I let it get to me? Would I worry so much about it? Would I be able to see the beauty of the snow and the pretty picture it creates? What would be different if my intention was to enjoy every moment of today? Would I slow down and appreciate every moment? Would I treat everyone around me as if we were family and connected? If I lived today in the moment would I let go of the past with the just the lesson as the memory? Would I stop trying to control a future that hasn’t been lived yet? Would I see that this moment has so much to offer? How could I make this day the first day of intention and awareness? I could take a deep breathe and just observe without judgment. I could slow down every action I will take.  I could really listen and allow the person I’m with to feel heard and cared for. I could show love, caring and warmth with every interaction. Let’s try to live each day with intention, awareness and less judgment.

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Feeling through the pain

Feeling Through The Pain:
By: Diane Lang
 

 – There are times that we need to stay in our emotions, even if those emotions are sadness, anger, hurt and/or fear.
– You need to stay there until feel that you can’t take it anymore.
– If we zip through the feelings and the pain, they will come back without the lesson needed.
 -We can’t heal until we feel, really feel it.
 -Spending days in your emotions can really help you to understand what you are feeling, why you are feeling it and healing through it.
 -When I spend a few days (or whatever it takes) in my emotions, a time comes when I have had enough and don’t want to feel that way anymore. It’s a turning point of growth.
-This shift allows me to go from feeling to taking action.
-It allows me to answer, “Why am I here again?”
-“What didn’t I deal with?” “What didn’t I feel?”
-“What changes didn’t I make and need to this time?”
-If it’s a pattern then I can figure out, what changes do I need to make to break it?
-I can’t answer any of these questions or shift my thought process until I have spent the time needed in the pain.

APRIL 2017 APPEARANCES 
 
 
Tuesday, April 18, 7pm – Living a Mindful Life
Emerson Community School, NJ
Phone: 201-262-5502

Wednesday, April 19, 7pm – I Am Enough – Learning to Love Yourself Again
Ramsey Adult School, NJ
Phone: 201-327-2025

Thursday, April 20, 6:30pm – Finding Your Passion
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

Tuesday, April 25, 7pm – Life after Retirement
Morristown Community School, NJ
Phone: 973-292-2063

Wednesday, April 26, 7pm – Dealing with Loss
Morristown Community School, NJ
Phone: 973-292-2063

Thursday, April 27, 10:30am – I Am Enough – Learning to Love Yourself Again
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224
As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.
Through her two books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness” and “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career.”  Diane has been speaking and empowering parents and adults nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement.
As an expert in her fields of therapy, Lang has been featured in the Daily Record, Family Circle, Family Magazine, Working Mother Magazine and Cookie Magazine, seen on NJ 12 TV, Good day CT, Style CT, The Veira Network, CBS TV and “Fox & Friends”.  She has also participated in a reality based Internet show, ourprisoner.com, hosted Generation X-tinet. In addition Lang writes a blog for Pazoo.com.
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Free Summit – Unlocking your child’s potential

The end of another school year is on the horizon. As you reflect on how it went, you may find yourself thinking about the struggles your child faced … and wondering why they occurred, and what you might have done differently to help him or her overcome them.
Whether he struggled socially or academically, you’re worried, right? You aren’t sure how to break through to him, and you’re afraid he might fall behind.
Bottom line: you know you can’t watch him deal with another distressing disagreement, or open another upsetting report card.
Something has to change.
Fortunately, my friend and colleague Alan Vasquez, Academic Life Coach, is passionate about empowering students of all ages with the emotional skills to overcome challenges in school. He’s offering a complimentary online summit, Unlock Your Child’s Potential: Empower Your Student with Emotional Intelligence & Self-Confidence to Overcome Academic and Life Challenges, and you’re invited to attend!
It starts April 14, and you can reserve your spot here:
When you go to the link above and sign up to join us, you’ll see that this summit brings together over 21 experts-including positive parenting experts and coaches, psychologists, emotional intelligence and leadership experts, educators, authors and inspirational speakers, and life and self-confidence coaches-to share our advice about how you can finally connect with your child and positively affect his self-esteem and his academic performance.
The promise: you’ll walk away from this complimentary online event with more tools and takeaways than you could imagine!
You will:
  •      Create peace in your mind and your life about how you’re positively affecting the emotional well-being of your children, so they’re equipped to handle the challenges they face in school and in life, now and as adults.
  •      Discover the secret to inspiring your child in school, so she looks forward to going, WANTS to work hard, and sees the results (and you don’t have to work so hard to keep her feeling positive)!
  •      Know how to raise confident, independent, and emotionally-intelligent children who thrive even in challenging situations.
  •      Develop your own emotional intelligence and self-confidence, so you have the tools and skills to guide your child (and yourself) through challenges.
  •      And more.
In short, you’ll discover, in one place, all the tools and strategies you need to truly support your child’s emotional well-being, which is vital to success in school and life.
Alan is the perfect person to host this summit. Not only does he specialize in providing academic and emotional support to students, but he also struggled with low self-esteem and self-confidence growing up. Without anyone to turn to for emotional support, he always felt like he wasn’t good enough. As an adult, he realizes the important role emotional intelligence plays in lifelong success.
Now, he’s brought together this amazing panel of experts to give YOU the tools you need to best support your student’s emotional growth, because as you know, your child’s well-being starts with you!
Here’s that link again, where you can reserve your spot on Unlock Your Child’s Potential:
As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.
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Are your basic needs met?

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Are Your Basic Needs Met?
By: Diane Lang
I have had many clients who come to me feeling “blah”, low energy, fatigued, and unbalanced. If this is you, then the first place to start is finding out if your basic needs met. We can’t feel happy, healthy and balanced if our basic needs are not met.
I have my clients keep the “Journal of Truth”. This is a journal that they keep for one week. It is similar to keeping a food diary. It’s writing everything down. There are no changes to be made during that week, it’s just keeping track of the four things: Food, Sleep, Diet and Water.
1. Food journal: what did you eat and when? Many of us don’t eat well. We have heard the expression, you are what you eat, and that is true.  Unfortunately, many of us eat foods that are high in sugar, low in nutrition, processed, or low fat/fat free foods that use fake sugars. This type of diet can cause us to feel fatigued, low energy, low concentration levels, and just feel blah, and sluggish. We also need to watch when we eat. If we go too long without food we can feel shaky, irritable, and moody. Changing our diets can change our lives.  Two great tips for decluttering your kitchen and changing your lifestyle:  Read the labels carefully.
●     If the first two ingredients are sugar or fake sugar, it’s time to remove it from the kitchen
●     If you can’t pronounce any of the ingredients on the label, it’s time to remove it from the kitchen.
2. Water: how much water do you drink each day? This does not include coffee, soda, or tea, unless it’s herbal, decaffeinated tea, or broth. Most of us feel fatigued and low energy. This can be due to our lack of water in our diet. I had a client who would feel sluggish around 3 o’clock while at work. She normally would go for a cup of coffee or grab a soda. She would sometimes go to the vending machine for a pick me up snack. I had her exchange all of that for two glasses of water at that time. Within a few weeks, she had more energy in the afternoon without any added calories, sugar, or caffeine. Try it! Add more water to your day, carry around a water bottle with you. Be hydrated and see the changes.
 3. Sleep: How much sleep do you get a night? Most Americans get 4-6 hours of sleep per night when we need around 8 hours. If we go 3 nights with 6 hours or less sleep, it’s like not sleeping for 24 hours cognitively. Our attention span, focus, concentration, moods, and memory are all off.
4. Exercise: Did you exercise today? Exercise is a great way to produce endorphins (the happy chemical) while reducing cortisol (stress hormone). For emotional health, if we walk 4 times a week for 30 minutes, we can get feelings similar to taking an anti-anxiety pill. Any exercise is great. I hit the gym a few times a week, but on those days when I can’t, I wear a pedometer and try to get my 10,000 steps in. A pedometer is a great investment. For $10-20 you can find out how many steps and miles you walked, and how many calories you burned. Just wearing the pedometer motivates me to walk more.
At the end of the week, read through your journal. You can see what is unbalanced in your life and what areas to work on. Then you can make the changes accordingly. When people have their basic needs met, they feel better physically and emotionally. To have total health we must have a healthy mind and body.

APRIL APPEARANCES: 
 
Monday, April 10, 7pm – Living a Mindful Life
Basking Ridge Community School, NJ
Phone: 973-443-9222

Tuesday, April 18, 7pm – Living a Mindful Life
Emerson Community School, NJ
Phone: 201-262-5502

Wednesday, April 19, 7pm – I Am Enough – Learning to Love Yourself Again
Ramsey Adult School, NJ
Phone: 201-327-2025

Thursday, April 20, 6:30pm – Finding Your Passion
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

Tuesday, April 25, 7pm – Life after Retirement
Morristown Community School, NJ
Phone: 973-292-2063

Wednesday, April 26, 7pm – Dealing with Loss
Morristown Community School, NJ
Phone: 973-292-2063

Thursday, April 27, 10:30am – I Am Enough – Learning to Love Yourself Again
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224
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The bad day

The Bad Day Syndrome:
By: Diane Lang
I hate when it happens, but it seems to come up when I least want it or expect it.
It’s a part of life we all need to expect and accept but yet I dread them each time they come.
The bad days:
The days you look forward to rain, clouds and sad songs.
The days you don’t want to leave your house and want to hide under your sheets all day with something fattening and comforting.
The days that are so long, draining and painful.
I know if I stay in the game of life they will be showing up again and again and it’s just something we all have to learn to accept.
When I have a bad day, I give myself the whole day to feel sorry for myself, to bitch, complain and criticize myself.
Maybe not the healthiest of choices, but one that works for me.
By giving myself the day to be miserable, it allows me to see that I hate feeling miserable and I will do better tomorrow to change that.
Sometimes I need a day to feel sorry for myself in order to hit a mini rock bottom where the only direction is up.
Sometimes I need a bad day to force myself to feel my feelings, become vulnerable and be open to change.
Those bad days are the bridge to my good days.
Allow yourself to have a bad day but just one then it’s time to move forward, take action and smile.
 
 A new day is always a fresh start, what will you do with today?
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