You can choose to accept change

You Can Choose To Accept Change:
By: Diane Lang

Change is the only constant in the world.
Fighting it will only form more resistance.
Resistance = stress.
Our lives will never look like a straight line, it will always look like a roller coaster, with many ups and downs.
Change brings growth.
Unfortunately, growth brings fear. It forces us to step outside our comfort zones.
When we step out, we stretch and expand which causes us to feel vulnerable and awkward.
Keep feeling it. Don’t fight it, don’t avoid it or resist it.
The other side is beautiful.
When we have grown, we feel empowered, we have learned and developed a new part of ourselves. However, we need to finish the experience.
If we stop when the pain and fear becomes too much, we get stuck.
When we learn to embrace change, we can expect the ups and downs.
Acceptance brings resiliency.
Resiliency lets us know at the end of the down cycle is the up cycle we have been fighting to get to.
Resiliency let’s us know that we all go through this and your growth can help someone else.
Resiliency gives you a boost of confidence by letting you know you can get through anything if you choose to.
Resiliency becomes stronger, the more you grow. Keep growing and learning, you will be surprised where you end up

Diane’s Bio

 

As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.

Through her two books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness” and “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career.”  Diane has been speaking and empowering parents and adults nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement.

As an expert in her fields of therapy, Lang has been featured in the Daily Record, Family Circle, Family Magazine, Working Mother Magazine and Cookie Magazine, seen on NJ 12 TV, Good day CT, Style CT, The Veira Network, CBS TV and “Fox & Friends”.  She has also participated in a reality based Internet show, ourprisoner.com, hosted Generation X-tinet. In addition Lang writes a blog for Pazoo.com

 

 

 

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I’m Scared, Are you?

I’m Scared, Are You?

By: Diane Lang

I’m scared
Are you?
Feels good to admit it.
We try so hard to hide it, we put on our masks and pretend all is well.
For some, they avoid their fear. They stay in their comfort zones because that is comfortable and easy. They know what to expect and how they will feel.
But they trade in growth for comfortability.
Is that worth it?
I don’t believe so.
But if we step outside our box, (the comfy box we built for ourselves where the weather is always good) then change happens along with growth, opportunities and possibilities.
So, instead of blocking, avoiding or hiding from the fear, we can choose to admit we’re afraid, accept and embrace the fear and move forward from there.
“I’m afraid, are you?”

Once you admit that then it’s time to grow, develop and take actio

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My latest Ebook – Cultivating Happiness Now available at B & N

Cultivating Happiness: 7 Steps To A Happier Life:

I’m so excited to announce that B&N is selling my eBook!

Cultivating happiness -7 steps to a happier life by Diane Lang | NOOK Book (eBook)

Cultivating Happiness: 7 Steps To A Happier Life
by Diane Lang

We all want to be happy but can we be happier then we are today? What makes us happy? What changes can we make in our life to be healthier and happier? Learn new ways of thinking and behaving that will make your life happier such as gratitude, kindness, meditation, etc. Learn the steps you can take now that will make a huge difference in your life.

For more information visit: http://www.dlcounseling.com

 

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The Fear behind Grief

 The fear behind grief comes from our fear of never being healed.
– We think of healed as cured.
– We think if we reach “healed”, all is well.
– What we tend to forget is that there will be triggers for the rest of our lives.
– Those triggers will bring us grief and fear all over again.
– So we are never fully healed/cured.
– Stop expecting to be healed, the expectation sets us up for failure.
– Instead. think of life as part of the healing process.
– Think of it as a roller coaster. We are up when we feel somewhat healed. when we are down. we wonder if we will ever feel normal again. This roller coaster ride causes us to evaluate “What is normal? Was I ever normal? Would I even want to be?”
-When we go through loss, our identity shifts and we are no longer the person we were before the loss.
– The type of loss doesn’t matter, all loss leads to a shift in our identity.
– We grow and change from loss. That’s the one norm we can expect.
– Stop expecting to be fully healed.
– Stop expecting healing to be done in a specific amount of time.
– Stop expecting to be the person you were before the loss.
– Instead embrace the feelings from the loss.
– Embrace the changes and growth that comes with the loss.
– Let go and accept your new situation, it’s the only way to release the resistance.
– Remember, we are all in the healing process everyone has encountered loss, you are never  alone.
 
 
 

August 2017

Tuesday, August 1, 6pm – Create Balance & Relieve Anxiety
Russell Library, CT
Phone: 860-347-2528
Thursday, August 3, 6:30pm – Prioritize Your Life
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224
Tuesday, August 15, 10:30am – Positive Aging
Mount Saint Mary College, NY
Phone: 845-565-2076
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Changing the negative noise in your head

Changing The Negative Noise In Our Heads:
By: Diane Lang
 
For many of us, negativity is our natural default and we find ourselves constantly listening to the negative loop in our head.
All the negative noise can play a role on our happiness levels.
Next time you hear that negative loop in your head, take some mindful action. Be conscious of what you are thinking.
When you notice a negative thought, stay there for a few seconds, notice the thought.
Make a conscious choice to say “Stop” to the thought.
Remind yourself:
This thought is not useful.
This thought is not helping me.
I don’t need to have this thought- it’s a old belief that doesn’t serve me anymore.
Just being aware of your negative thoughts is stopping the process.
Then refusing to allow the thought to remain and choosing not to believe in the thought is huge.
This stops the autopilot and brings you into the moment.
You are in control of your thoughts!

JULY 2017:
 
Monday, July 24, 6pm – Positive Psychology – Finding Your Happiness
The Center for Conscious Caregiving, NJ
Phone: 732-864-5508

August 2017

Tuesday, August 1, 6pm – Create Balance & Relieve Anxiety
Russell Library, CT
Phone: 860-347-2528
Thursday, August 3, 6:30pm – Prioritize Your Life
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224
Tuesday, August 15, 10:30am – Positive Aging
Mount Saint Mary College, NY
Phone: 845-565-2076
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The Importance of Empathy

If we all decided to be empathetic listeners, we could change this world.
We could change our relationships for the better.
When we listen to others through empathy, we find connection and understanding.
We realize how similar our worlds and stories are.
We realize we are all human and one.
We realize that even if we have never been through the same situation as the person we are listening to, we could still understand the emotions behind the story.
We can understand the sadness, hurt, anger, loneliness, joy, love, etc.
By listening with empathy, we would show others that they are really, truly being heard.
When people feel heard, they know they are cared for and loved
That shifts the whole conversation and relationship.
It takes away fear and all that is left is love.
Empathy is a learned trait, we all have the ability to be more empathetic.
Start today to be more empathetic and we can change the world one conversation at a time.
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Being a Positive Parent

I recently taught a training on being a positive parent. Parenting classes used to be about changing the child but being a positive parent is about changing yourself . Children learn through observation, imitation and role modeling so when you change, your child will follow suit.

How To Be A Positive Parent:
 Parenting is about raising your own awareness, being the best person you could be. So the child can see the best and want to follow suit.
> Don’t set your expectations on your child. Let your child be themselves not what you want them to be. Let your child be their authentic self.
> Don’t push your child into activities, sports, etc to take away your own anxiety or to fit into society. Keeping up the jones just creates more stress for you and your child.
> Even though your child is yours, they’re not really yours, they are still their own person with their own interests, thoughts, strengths, etc.
> We don’t have the power to change or control them, they are their own person.
> Let the child be independent, don’t have a child to feel needed or loved.
> Do you love your child without conditions without wanting anything back? any behavior expectations? etc?
> Children are teachers for us- what can you learn from your kids?
>  I have learned how to give and receive unconditional love.
> Parenting is raising a child who gets to experience a full life
> Teach rejection is part of life but not a personal attack. It doesn’t mean you are not lovable. Part of life is accepting that not everyone will like us and that’s OK.
> Your child doesn’t leave your legacy, you leave your own legacy. Worry about your own legacy not what your child will leave because they have your name or represent who you are.
 
 
 
 

July 2017 Workshops Open to the Public
Wednesday, July 12 through July 26, 6pm – 3 week class – Positive Psychology – Finding Your Happiness

Warren Community College, NJ
Phone: 908-835-2333

 
Thursday, July 13, 10:30am – Power of Positive Thinking
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

 
Tuesday, July 18, 10:30am – Mindful Living
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

 
Monday, July 24, 6pm – Positive Psychology – Finding Your Happiness
The Center for Conscious Caregiving, NJ
Phone: 732-864-5508

August 2017 Workshops Open to the Public

Tuesday, August 1, 6pm – Create Balance & Relieve Anxiety
Russell Library, CT
Phone: 860-347-2528
Thursday, August 3, 6:30pm – Prioritize Your Life
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224
Tuesday, August 15, 10:30am – Positive Aging
Mount Saint Mary College, NY
Phone: 845-565-2076
As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.
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