True Acceptance & Transformation

True Acceptance And Transformation:
By: Diane Lang
Acceptance is accepting where you are today. Acceptance means accepting your current situation with the key word “current”, which means tomorrow is unknown.
It’s dealing with the stuff you can’t change and control. Acceptance is not a pass to give up, remain in denial and just let it go without action. True acceptance is a form of action and with action comes hope. When we feel hope, we feel motivated to move forward.

Does true acceptance really bring transformation? Most people ask this because acceptance comes with the stereotype of giving up, letting go or walking away. This is not the truth and a myth we need to let go off because with those myths comes the feeling that acceptance is giving up and a sign of weakness.
The truth is acceptance is the foundation for growth and transformation. It’s the beginning of change and none of that includes giving up. Acceptance is actually a form of courage and bravery. To actual accept your life as is and be in that moment for as much time as you need means your feeling. You feel what the situation is which can be hurt, suffering, anger, fear, helplessness, pain, etc.
Acceptance brings the feelings to the surface and from there we can let go of the fight, let go of the resistance which also means letting go of the stress that comes with the fight. When we release all that resistance, we become free. This doesn’t happen overnight. Acceptance is just the first step in your transformation.

Five steps to Accept and Transform:

 1. Accept where you are currently
 2. Feel the emotions of your life at this moment.
 3. Release the stress and resistance. Give up the fight of something you have no control over.
 4. Breathe and just stay in the acceptance zone which I call the gray zone. The gray zone is the transition time from your old identity to your new identity. The gray zone is filled with fear and confusion. This is a time when you need to think, analyze and reevaluate your life. Where do you want to go? Who do you want to be. What part of your old identity do you want to take with you? What’s your future vision look like? Feel like?
5. Action – this is the time to make the commitment to move into your new identity.
Set intrinsic, realistic goals with a realistic time frame.

Tuesday, November 1, 7pm – 
Positive Psychology – Finding Your Happiness
Emerson Community School, NJ
Phone: 201-262-5502
Wednesday, November 2, 7pm – Life after Retirement
Morristown Community School, NJ
Phone: 973-292-2063 ext 8315
Thursday, November 3 through November 17, 1pm – Emotional Wellness Series
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224
Thursday, November 3, 7pm – Positive Psychology – Finding Your Happiness
Lake Hiawatha Library, NJ
Phone: 973-335-0952
Wednesday, November 8, 630pm – Letting Go of Anger
Hofstra University, NY
Phone: 516-463-7200
Monday, November 14, 7pm – Retrain Your Brain for Success
Morris Hills Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-664-2295
Tuesday, November 15, 7pm – Dealing with Negative People
Ramsey Adult School, NJ
Phone: 201-327-2025
Wednesday, November 16, 1pm – Happiness
Montville Pueblos Library, NJ
Phone: 973-402-0900 ext 222
Thursday, November 17, 7pm – Dealing with Negative People
Princeton Adult School, NJ
Phone: 609-683-1101
Monday, November 21, 7pm – Living a Mindful Life
Westfield Adult School, NJ
Tuesday, November 29, 7pm – Dealing with Negative People
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224
Wednesday, November 30, 7pm – Stress Less, Savor More
Emerson Community School, NJ
Phone: 201-262-5502

Diane Lang – Positive Living Expert, life coach and psychotherapist – is a nationally recognized speaker, author, educator, therapist and media expert. Lang is extremely mediagenic and offers expertise on a variety of health and wellness topics about creating balance and finding happiness through positive living as well as multiple mental health, lifestyle and parenting needs. In addition to holding multiple counseling positions, Diane is also an adjunct at Montclair State University.
Lang has been interviewed for numerous magazine and newspaper articles and has been a frequent guest on radio and TV shows including “Fox & Friends” on the Fox News Network. Lang a regular featured expert on the “Expat Show” broadcasted weekly on the New York ABC affiliate WTBQ-AM, and a Blogger.

Lang speaks to employees of large companies to help reduce stress in the workplace and speaks to parents about how to create balance and find happiness along with a variety of other health and wellness topics. For rates or to book Diane Lang contact
Diane is also the author of two books: “Baby Steps: The Path from Motherhood to Career” and “Creating Balance and Finding Happiness

About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang, practicing therapist, national speaker, educator, and certified positive psychology coach, has her master’s degree in counseling and is an adjunct in psychology at Montclair State University. She has written three books, and has been featured in various publications, and on TV and Internet shows. Diane speaks on various mental and emotional health topics including Happiness, Resiliency, Stress management, Parenting Positive Aging, Anxiety, and Depression in both teens and adults. Diane also specializes in Positive Psychology Positive Education and Positive Parenting. Thousands of individuals have benefited from Diane’s motivational and educational speaking, trainings, and coaching. Her Hands-on approach along with her background, education and experience has proven to be beneficial to all who attend her presentation. To learn more on how you could bring Diane to your organization please email
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