Finding meaning in your life

Finding Meaning In Your Life:
By: Diane Lang
In a world filled with social media and so much focus put on being the best, a lot of us find ourselves feeling less than and trying to fit into the mold of success according to society. Even though success is an individual thing, society has put its standards out there and a lot of us try to accomplish these standards even if it’s not making us happy. Don’t get wrapped up in the notion that meaning has to be something like being famous. We don’t find more meaning because of a paycheck or a title. What we do becomes more meaningful when we realize we impacted someone’s life. It’s the thank you notes, the smiles, the words of appreciation that makes us feel a deep sense of meaning.

We can find meaning in two different ways. Finding a deeper meaning of life – why am I here? What’s my purpose. What’s important to me?  What legacy do I want to leave?

These are important questions in the big picture. Having purpose and meaning in our lives, helps give us direction, pick a career, lead us towards our interests and how we want to help the world.

We can also find meaning in our daily lives. Ask yourself: How can we make a difference in small ways each day? How can you make someone’s life a little easier today? Touch someone’s life?
To find meaning in every day life, look at each day as a day filled with opportunities and possibilities to use your gift, make someone smile, share your legacy, connect with others and contribute to humankind in small ways.

For some, work gives us meaning and purpose. For others, work pays their purpose. I have a client who wants to rescue dogs but needs money to see this dream come to fruition. She strongly believes her purpose is to take care of stray animals. Her job allows her to live out this purpose which brings great joy and meaning to her life.

If you know the purpose of your life which gives your life meaning then you must ask yourself are you living in accordance to this purpose?

 True meaning is taking your purpose/gift (the reason why you are here) and sharing it with others.

When you know your purpose, you need to continue to grow and learn, to challenge yourself, to take risks, this keep our purpose fresh and exciting.

What’s your purpose?
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Cultivating Happiness ebook

Cultivating Happiness: 7 Steps To A Happier Life:
 
I’m so excited to announce that B&N is selling my eBook!
Click on the link to be sent directly to the page!
Cultivating Happiness: 7 Steps To A Happier Life

We all want to be happy but can we be happier then we are today? What makes us happy? What changes can we make in our life to be healthier and happier?Learn new ways of thinking and behaving that will make your life happier such as gratitude, kindness, meditation, etc.Learn the steps you can take now that will make a huge difference in your life.
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Life is Messy

Life Is Messy:
By: Diane Lang 
Life is messy.
There is no one mood.
I’m not always happy or down.
I don’t always love myself. Some days, I’m so down, I can’t imagine making it through another day.
Other days, my life feels great and I find myself excited about life.
Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason, life just brings me situations and circumstances that I have no control over and I feel helpless and hopeless.
Then something inside me clicks, I shift and I feel hope.
This is life.
It’s not smooth.
Some days its unbearable
But I always know it will get better.
Don’t have any expectations or assumptions on life.
Don’t compare your life to others because every life works the same way- days of pain and days of joy.
It’s a journey so if you are feeling down now, you will be lifted again.
If you’re in an up cycle, enjoy it, there will be dark days ahead.
It’s a complete circle.
Those dark days bring learning, strength and growth.
The joyful days bring enjoyment and fun.
Each mood and day has a purpose.
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Surrounding yourself with positive people

Surrounding Yourself With Positive People:
By: Cristina B.
Keeping good company is a very important thing. Sometimes we surround ourselves with people who can inspire us, and sometimes we surround ourselves with people who drain us! We have to be mindful of who we choose. Being selective and picky about who choose to be in our lives isn’t selfish! Putting ourselves first should be a priority too!
Here are some tips about staying positive and keeping positive people in our lives:
 
1.) Think About The Type Of People You Attract: Who do you like to make friends with? What things do you have in common? Friendships should inspire you to do different things, but one thing is certain: Make sure that after you hang out, you don’t leave feeling drained.
2.)  Be The Good You Wish To See In Others: Of course we want to have inspiring and happy people in our lives, but we must do the same for others if we want to receive that attitude as well!
3.) “If You See Something Beautiful In Someone, Speak It.” It’s always nice to feel and be complimented, we should do the same for those in our lives. You never know what that could do for someone else.
4.) “Close Your Eyes And Imagine The Best You Possible. That’s Who You Really Are. Let Go Of Any Part Of You That Doesn’t Believe It.” Always strive to be the best you YOU could be. And be the best you for everyone else.

June 2017:

Monday, June 5th, 12th & 19th, 6pm – Emotional Wellness
Warren Community College, NJ
Phone: 908-835-9222

Tuesday, June 13th, 6:30pm – Life after Retirement
Mount Saint Mary College, NY
Phone: 845-565-2076

Friday, June 16th, 3pm – Dealing with Negative People
Bridgewater Public library, NJ
Phone: 908-526-4016

Monday, June 26th, 6pm – Positive Psychology- Finding Your Happiness
The Center for Conscious Care giving, NJ
Phone: 732-864-5508

As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.
Through her two books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness” and “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career.”  Diane has been speaking and empowering parents and adults nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement.
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Your happiness is not for sale

Your Happiness Is Not For Sale:
By: Diane Lang

-You can’t take away my happiness.
-It’s not for sale.
-We seem to give our happiness away In hopes of feeling acceptance and approval from others
-But now I know that all we do is give up our power, when we give away our happiness.
-It’s time to take back your power.
-It’s a choice – your happiness, your power, your life.
-It’s making decisions that value your self
-It’s making choices based on love not fear, the love you have for yourself.
-Your happiness is no longer a part of you that your willing to give away like an old pair of shoes. It’s part of your identity and here to stay.
-Remember you are not responsible for anyone’s happiness but your own!

JUNE APPEARANCES 2017: 
Friday, June 2nd, 10:30am – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224
 
Monday, June 5th, 12th & 19th, 6pm – Emotional Wellness
Warren Community College, NJ
Phone: 908-835-9222
 
Tuesday, June 13th, 6:30pm – Life after Retirement
Mount Saint Mary College, NY
Phone: 845-565-2076
 
Friday, June 16th, 3pm – Dealing with Negative People
Bridgewater Public library, NJ
Phone: 908-526-4016
 
Monday, June 26th, 6pm – Positive Psychology- Finding Your Happiness
The Center for Conscious Care giving, NJ
Phone: 732-864-5508
As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.
Through her two books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness” and “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career.”  Diane has been speaking and empowering parents and adults nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement.
As an expert in her fields of therapy, Lang has been featured in the Daily Record, Family Circle, Family Magazine, Working Mother Magazine and Cookie Magazine, seen on NJ 12 TV, Good day CT, Style CT, The Veira Network, CBS TV and “Fox & Friends”.  She has also participated in a reality based Internet show, ourprisoner.com, hosted Generation X-tinet. In addition Lang writes a blog for Pazoo.com.
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Creating your Intention

Creating Your Intention:
By: Diane Lang
 
An intention is the foundation and start of your dreams.
What is your intention? My intention is to experience greater freedom.
Say your intention out loud and let it soak in.
Visualize your intention:

what would your life look and feel like when your dreams comes true?
Meditate on your intention:

setting your intention, visualize and meditate on it! It really sets it in action.
Pay attention to what comes up physically and emotionally through the process:

you can learn a lot about yourself through this process
Then set your intention out into the universe.
Don’t set an expiration date! Just believe and know it will happen.
Pay attention to the signs and small gifts that come to you from setting your intention! Such as: new ideas, new people that come into your life, opportunities, etc.
Each day wake up and say out loud your intention to affirm it.
Sample Intentions:
I intend to live my life fully awake and in the present moment.
I intend to encourage and support my children everyday but still allowing them freedom to be themselves.
I intend to joyfully deepen all my relationships.
I intend to open my heart and love fully.
I intend to create friendships that I love and enjoy.
I intend to be more brave and take daily risks.
I intend to receive unlimited financial abundance that allows my life to flow easily and help others.
What’s your intention?

UPCOMING WORKSHOPS:
 
Tuesday, May 23rd, 6:30pm – Create Balance & Relieve Anxiety
Totowa Public Library, NJ
Phone: 973-790-3265

Wednesday, May 24th, 10:30am – Positive Psychology- Finding Your Happiness
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

June Workshops Open to the Public

Friday, June 2nd, 10:30am – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

Monday, June 5th, 12th & 19th, 6pm – Emotional Wellness
Warren Community College, NJ
Phone: 908-835-9222

Tuesday, June 13th, 6:30pm – Life after Retirement
Mount Saint Mary College, NY
Phone: 845-565-2076

Friday, June 16th, 3pm – Dealing with Negative People
Bridgewater Public library, NJ
Phone: 908-526-4016

Monday, June 26th, 6pm – Positive Psychology- Finding Your Happiness
The Center for Conscious Care giving, NJ
Phone: 732-864-5508

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My grief comes with fear

By: Diane Lang
Grief  brings up  a lot of emotions, but the one I feel the most is fear. When we encounter a loss of any kind, we can find ourselves stuck in constant fear because our comfort zone and norm has been shaken. The life we have known has been taken away from us without any preparation or planning.
Life has become uncertain. and uncertainty is what brings fear to the surface. It leaves us feeling vulnerable. We correlate vulnerability to weakness and the harsh words of judgment pop up in our minds over and over again. We can’t find the door that leads to our old comfortable life and there is no escape route so here we stay in our grief and fear.
Our best is to let go of the resistance and feel the fear and grief. That also includes all the emotions that come with it. Don’t run away from your feelings. If we try to avoid or deny them, we will prolong the pain and fear. When we remove the resistance, we release the stress and frustration.
 Accept that this moment this is where you are but that doesn’t mean it means forever. It’s just where you are today. Tomorrow offers new hope and opportunities.
We all feel grief, we all go through changes and this will always cause fear. How long we hold on to the fear is up to us?
Remember, we have options. We can choose, to stop the resistance and accept our situation, feel the emotions that come with true acceptance and know that tomorrow is a new day.

MAY + JUNE 2017
Monday, May 15th, 7pm – Positive Psychology – Finding Your Happiness
Westfield Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-443-9222

Thursday, May 18th, 10:30am – Dealing with Loss
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

Tuesday, May 23rd, 6:30pm – Create Balance & Relieve Anxiety
Totowa Public Library, NJ
Phone: 973-790-3265

Wednesday, May 24th, 10:30am – Positive Psychology- Finding Your Happiness
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

June Workshops Open to the Public

Friday, June 2nd, 10:30am – Declutter Your Life & Reduce Stress
Montclair Adult School, NJ
Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224

Monday, June 5th, 12th & 19th, 6pm – Emotional Wellness
Warren Community College, NJ
Phone: 908-835-9222

Tuesday, June 13th, 6:30pm – Life after Retirement
Mount Saint Mary College, NY
Phone: 845-565-2076

Friday, June 16th, 3pm – Dealing with Negative People
Bridgewater Public library, NJ
Phone: 908-526-4016

Monday, June 26th, 6pm – Positive Psychology- Finding Your Happiness
The Center for Conscious Care giving, NJ
Phone: 732-864-5508

As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist,
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