Building Resiliency for Tough Times

Building a Resiliency Plan for Tough Times

When going through a tough time, a change/transition, there is always an end and a beginning. With change/transition comes pain, sadness, and fear but there is also some good and joy. You find new reasons to go on. You re-shape your life according to your new reality.

You start asking questions such as:

How am I going to rebuild my life with my new reality?

What new expectations do I have for my new reality?

What new dreams and goals come up for me?

Healing is building a life around the pain. It is acknowledging the pain, sadness, fear, and whatever emotions comes up for you, feeling those emotions and still building a new life. You grow despite the struggle, change and pain. You find new motivation to move on. When we find ourselves in a change whether forced or planned, we find new purpose and meaning in life. Purpose and meaning changes with our circumstances. Its important to embrace the change and all the new that comes with it.

Struggle = Growth = Purpose

When we struggle with a tough situation which causes change/transition, we find ourselves going through an ending and beginning. This causes growth. Growth comes from pain and suffering but also brings joy and positivity. From the growth, we start to develop new purpose and meaning in life. We are forever changed from the situation and we now want to take all that we have learned and share it with others and help others who have been through similar situations.

When going through this tough time/change ask yourself the following questions:

1.What do I need? Resilient people ask for help.

2. Are my basic needs met? We need a strong foundation. Make sure your sleep, diet, water, and exercise become part of your daily routine.  When you recognize an area that is lacking, think of one small step you can take to improve it. These can be baby steps. No judgment just action.

3. What are my self-care strategies? What helps calm and soothe me? Are they healthy coping skills? What are my unhealthy coping skills? Being aware of the unhealthy coping skills is important.

4.What does my support system look like? We cannot heal, grieve, or forgive alone.

5. Do I have a good morning and night routine? We are our happiest, most productive, and creative with routine, schedule, and consistency.  If you do not have a routine, create one by adding two activities to both your morning and night routine such as: gratitude, prayers, stretching, meditation, yoga, walking, journal writing, deep breathing, etc. I suggest having at least one or two mindfulness activities in your day to help reduce stress and keep you coming back to the present moment.

For more information please email Diane at dlcounseling2014@gmail.com

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8 Ways to Destress during the Holidays

8 ways to De-stress during the Holidays

Everyone knows that the holidays can be a stressful time of the year. There’s a lot of planning that goes on for family get-togethers, holiday parties, dinners, and even traveling. The conflicts that are bound to arise bring up mixed feelings and can lead to stress and anxiety. However, the holidays can also be a time to reflect on all of the good things you have in your life and enjoy spending time with your close friends and loved ones. If you’re prone to holiday stress once November comes around, try following these eight tips.

  1. Start early

One of the best ways to avoid holiday stress is to start planning early! This means making to-do lists, grocery lists, getting a head start on your gift shopping and more. When you wait until the last minute to do these things, that’s when the stress really gets to you. You can avoid all of that by just making a few lists early on and taking time to complete them a few tasks at a time instead of all at once.

  1. Take care of you

When you’re starting to feel overwhelmed by all of the tasks you have to do and by the idea that you will soon have to spend time entertaining your large, extended family, create some personal time to relax. Make time in your schedule to do whatever it is that makes you happy, whether it’s a day at the spa, snuggling under the covers and reading a good book, or enjoying a glass of wine before bed. Some solitary time is important and it’s good to indulge every once in a while.

  1. Be up front financially

Money is another big factor in holiday stress since most people plan to buy presents for the family, cook dinner for a group, and even host big parties. The holidays are always a tough time financially and you shouldn’t spend money that you don’t have and can’t afford to be spending. If money is tight, create a strict budget for yourself and make sure to stick to it. Consider buying presents only for the kids, doing a Secret Santa /Yankee Swap for the adults, or even use your creativity to make some homemade gifts. 

  1. Get some exercise

Getting active and doing some form of exercise does wonders for relieving stress. Even going for a brisk walk for 30 minutes a day can be extremely beneficial. Grab a neighbor or a friend to accompany you so you can talk while you’re on the move and you won’t even realize that what you’re doing is exercising. If possible, get the whole family involved in a family walk so they can all benefit from lower levels of stress.

  1. Ask for help

If you’re the person in the family who is doing all of the planning, all of the cooking, and all of the shopping, you really should consider asking for help. No one can be expected to do so many things at once so learn to delegate tasks to others. Ask family members to each bring a different dish to dinner to relieve some of your cooking duties. Everyone should be doing his or her part to help, even during clean up.

  1. Gratitude

The holidays are really about spending quality time with your friends and family. It’s not about the presents, or the food, or the parties. We should feel grateful and happy for our health and for being surrounded by loved ones. These are lessons to pass on to your children and teach them to appreciate all of the little things in life that make us happy.

  1. Watch the signs

Listen to your body. If you are noticing any of the following signs, then it’s time to make changes:

Change in sleeping or eating

Feeling irritable/moody

Exhaustion/Fatigue

Panic attack symptoms

Physical signs such as headaches, stomach issues, joint pain, low immune system

  1. Pay it forward

For the holidays join a local charity and help with serving dinners, dropping off presents and giving hugs. Every time we do a random act of kindness, we help others while helping ourselves. Random acts of kindness give a boost of happiness that lasts 24-72 hours. Spread the joy!

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What Can I Control?

  

What Can I Control?

 
Subject: What Can I Control?November 11th 2020What Can I Control?By: Diane LangWith so much uncertainty in the world, many of my clients/students are often asking me, “what do I have control over?”
When we continue to work on things, we have no control over, we become frustrated and stuck. We feel a lack of power over our own lives, this causes fear and anxiety. When we take some time to evaluate our lives and see what parts we have control over, we gain clarity.
What do we have control over? We can all control ourselves which is great place to start but what does that mean? What is included in this? I put a list below to get you started.
1.    You always have a choice. Is the decision/choice your making based on fear/ego or love?
2.    Reactions/Responses – you cannot change others, but you can change how you react/respond to a person and situation. You can change your attitude to alter how you view a situation. You can reframe a “Why does this happen to me?” to “What is this trying to teach me?”
3.    Mindset – how you talk to yourself, self-compassion, kindness, empathy, etc. Be mindful of how you talk/treat yourself. Is self-care part of your life?4.    Perspective – the one constant in the world is change. We cannot do anything about it but how we perceive the change is up to us? Do we run from it? Fear it? Or think of it as a teachable, learnable moment? Are you open to new possibilities and opportunities? “Change always comes bearing gifts” …. Price Pritchett
5.    What you digest – what do you allow in your life? Body? Food, drink, media, social media, etc. Where do you put your energy?
6.    What you do with your free time and who you spend it with. Do the people you surround yourself with empower you or make you feel worse about yourself?
When dealing with a situation ask yourself:
1.    What concern or problem is bothering me right now?
2.    Do I have control or is it out of my control?
3.    If I have control, what actions can I take? How can I move forward?
4.    If I have no control, what can I do to help me accept the situation?
Can I stop fighting it? Resisting it?
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What do I want to do when I grow up?

What Do I Want To Do When I Grow Up? By: Diane Lang
For some people, their passion/purpose comes to them. Some even knew what they wanted to be when they grew up as a child.I always envied those people. For the rest of us, we keep asking the question: What do I want to do when I grow up? For others, you started with your purpose/passion and somewhere along the way, you lost interest and the question comes up again: What do I want to do when I grow up? It’s one of the most popular questions I hear from my clients and also one of the most frustrating. If you find yourself stuck or desiring a change in career, here are eight tips to help you find your purpose/passion. 

1. What causes you pain? For many of us, what brings up the most pain and discomfort also brings us our purpose. For example: If you have an injury/illness, that might lead you into helping others with a similar situation. 
2. What causes you to feel envy? Social media has some negatives but let’s put that negative to use. When you are scrolling through your social media feed, what brings up the emotion of envy or jealousy for you? Instead of judging yourself for feeling that way, ask what it’s trying to teach you. What’s missing/lacking in your life? Does someone going back to get their degree or a certificate bring sparks of envy? Does someone opening up their own business bring the pangs of jealousy? use this emotion/information to make changes going forward. 
3. Ask yourself the following spiritual questions: Does the work you do make you feel you’re contributing to society/making the world a better place? Does your career match your value system? Does it create a sense of flow? Does it give your life meaning? 
4. Re-evaluate your career. At some point your career might have matched your values, gave your life meaning and flow but no longer does. We are always changing and growing so what worked for you 5 or 10 years ago might no longer work. That’s ok just check in and see how you feel and make changes accordingly.  
5. Childhood- think back to childhood dreams, what did you want to do when you grew up? Sometimes, we are driven off path by life circumstances, society or parents encouragement or the pursuit of external goals such as money, fame, status and power. As we get older, we actually feel more satisfied with accomplishing internal goals.  
6. Fear – for many of us, we know our true calling but fear has stopped us. If this is the case, it’s time to deal with the fear. Fear can paralyze us, the best way through is to acknowledge the fear but move forward anyway with small baby steps. It doesn’t mean quitting your job and running after your dream tomorrow. It does mean, acknowledging your dream, writing down your goals and setting action steps to move forward.  7.Know the “Why” behind your dream/goal. Why do you want it? When we know why the motivation comes much easier.
8. What are your strengths? gifts? abilities? These are clues. If you don’t know what they are, take a personality test which will help you uncover your strengths and
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Four Ways to Handle a Crisis

We’re in a Crisis, Now What?
The pandemic/quarantine has caused a global crisis. Being in any type of crisis will cause a mix of emotions we go through. The questions I get from many clients are: how do I handle a crisis? What will I feel? For many, it’s easier, if we know what to expect and what to do. Just knowing that it’s normal and others feel the same way can give us a sense of comfort and peace. 
Four Ways to Deal with a Crisis

1. What is the action we need to take? The more information and knowledge we have of the situation the more control we have. Get as much up to date information so you can take the information, evaluate it and create solutions. Knowledge is the enemy of fear and can reduce fear. *Remember, it’s important to get up to date information from reliable sources but don’t get overwhelmed with too much. Get what you need and move forward brainstorming and creating solutions. 
2. Regression – we regress in our behaviors. It’s a defense mechanism that many use. We become stressed/anxious and everyday feels like ground hog day. What can you do to self-soothe when stress/anxious? What is in your emotional toolbox? exercise/walking, meditation, deep breathing, yoga, journal writing, etc. When everyday starts feeling the same, we become stagnate. To break this habit, do something new everyday. It can be simple things, try a new food/drink, walk a different route, read a different type of book, etc. 
3. Lack of purpose – it’s hard to focus, concentrate and stay motivated when we are in a crisis and a time of uncertainty but without purpose/meaning we don’t feel happy and fulfilled. Create a new goal and action plan list that works for your current reality. If you are still trying to work on goals that were set pre-pandemic, they might not be realistic or attainable anymore. Your priorities, needs and wants might have shifted. Use this time to re-evaluate your life, what are your priorities? what’s important to you? what do you value? What do you want/need? 
4. Recovery – this is when we move forward with our new goals/action plans we set. This is the time for our new norm. Remember, our norm can change quickly so re-evaluate often. 
Montville Public Library, Managing Stress & Anxiety During a Crisis- 1pm Register at 973-402-0900 

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Creating Peace in Uncertain Times

In the last few months, the world has gone through a lot of change and the future is very uncertain. Each day the uncertainty grows. We are all going through a mix of emotions such as fear, confusion, stress, doom and gloom while trying to find the light at the end of the tunnel.
The question becomes, how do I find the light at the end of the tunnel, when the tunnel seems to go on forever?
Here are four tips to creating peace in times of uncertainty
1. Stay in the present moment – Our anxiety comes from being stuck in the past and our past fears come back to haunt us. Or we are stuck in the future worrying about what if’s. When we are in the present moment, we feel our happiest, calm, creative and productive. What mindful activities could you do to get out of autopilot and into the present moment? For me, it’s taking a walk or sitting out in nature. For you, it might be a different type of exercise or yoga, meditation or deep breathing. Try different mindfulness techniques and find what works best for you.
Sprinkle a few mindfulness techniques through your day. We all need a few mindfulness breaks where we take 3-5 minutes to just be.
2. Prayer – Praying is a form of mindfulness. I always thought of prayer as talking to my higher power(or whatever you call it) and meditation is listening. I pray in the morning and meditate at night, it’s the perfect combo for me. I don’t have any religious affiliation but I find it very spiritual and comforting. I feel a deep connection to my source and everyone around me with the mix of both. Find what works best for you.
3. Giving to others- we can get so stuck in our own fear, pain, worry and misery that we can’t see outside of ourselves. When we help others, we cultivate happiness. We feel a part of the change we want to see in the world. We feel a sense of control by taking action. Every day, do one thing to make this world a better place.
Ask the questions:
How can I make this world better?
What one random act of kindness can I take today?
How can I be of service to others?
4. Two Stories- when bad things happen, how do you view it? what’s your perspective? There are always two sides to each story. Both sides are true. One is the negative side and the other is the positive. You have a choice of which story you focus on.
During Covid 19 there have been two stories.
  1. Everyone is getting sick, We are self-isolating and people are dying. This is a true story
  2. During Covid, I have seen so many brave first responders. I’m amazed how many nurses and doctors came in from other states to help. I can’t believe all the kindness of the retail workers, postal service, etc. This story is true.
Which story do you choose to focus on?
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What is Balance

What is balance? We always talk about work-life balance, but I think there is much more to balance then time management.

How do you define balance? It’s an individual statement that you need to think about and answer. I always thought balance was doing work you love with a life mixed with personal things you loved to do. When we spend our lives doing work we do not like or with hobbies/people we do not enjoy, we will feel unbalanced. Don’t get me wrong, I know we won’t love everything we do in life and there is just some shit we need to do but what if the majority of our life was based on purpose/meaning and love? Wouldn’t that create a more well-balanced life? A happier life?

I remember when I first started a side hustle of writing and speaking, my topic of choice was on moms re-entering the workforce. Mom’s would always ask: Should I go back to work? If I do, should it be part-time or full time? Should I work from home? My answer was always the same what is the “Why” behind the choice you make.

What type of career would make you the best mom? parent? person? It’s different for everyone. This is the question you should ask yourself to have a balanced life. Does your career make you be the best person you could be? Do the people you spend your quality time with lift you up? empower you? do your hobbies/extra activities bring you flow? enjoyment? pleasure?

If you can mix your professional life and personal life with things that give you purpose/meaning, enjoyment, fulfillment, and love then some of the other responsibilities we must do will not feel so bad. We will have a lot to look forward to. Sundays will not be a day of stress because we must go to work tomorrow. We will feel happiness/joy coming home after work and we will look forward to our free time to fill it with activities and people we love. That is what balance looks like to me.

I also think of balance as being my best self. It means letting go of unrealistic expectations.

It means being your true self even on days that you feel no one likes the real you and insecurity is taking over. If your busy trying to be someone else, you will never feel balanced. How could you when you haven’t been authentic or vulnerable? You cannot have loving relationships without authenticity and vulnerability. Balance means accepting yourself as you are today with the hope of being even better tomorrow. Hope moves us forward and helps us to take action. Balance means knowing the reason why you are doing something. Balance means doing your best work but not working all the time. Balance means putting yourself at the top of the priority list and taking care of your basic needs such as sleep, diet, and exercise. Balance means taking time off to refuel and reboot. Balance means removing things from your life that no longer serve you. Balance means getting rid of the mindset that is negative, harsh, and judgmental. Balance is self-care which is a mix of self-love and self-compassion.

Take some time this week to define balance for yourself. We are slowly going back to a life after quarantine. I know for me; I want my post covid-19 life to be much better than my life pre-covid 19.

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 What We Need Is Forgiveness
By: Diane Lang
Forgiveness for not being perfect during this time of crisis- we don’t know what to do, how could we, it is brand new territory. What is important is learning from this situation so we are better prepared for any other crisis that will come.
Forgiveness for not feeling and being yourself – this is new. We are not sure how to feel.
Forgive yourself for all the judgments, harsh and critical words you have spoken to yourself.
Forgiveness for falling back into old habits – if you have fallen off the wagon, it’s OK. You can start again tomorrow.
Forgiveness for all the anger your feeling- we are constantly being bombarded with fear and negativity. The feelings of anger might come up. It will be a roller coaster ride of emotions for awhile.
Forgiveness for trying to control a situation that is out of your control- it could be a trait you have like me (I’m a control freak) or it could be trying to make yourself feel better. Either way, it’s OK. However, now is the time to let go and accept what is at this moment. Work on only things you can control.
Forgiveness for decisions made in fear – we are all feeling anxious and fearful. Next choice or decision you have to make, ask yourself, is it being made out of love or fear? Be mindful when asking and answering.
Forgive yourself for projecting your fears on to others- you didn’t do it with intention. Try to be mindful of your feelings. Don’t hold them in, release through talking or writing but get it out in a healthy way.
Forgive yourself for not completing goals made before or during the isolation – things have changed, goals will be put aside or shifted. This is OK. Re-evaluate your goals and create new ones.
Forgive yourself for taking time to do nothing because it’s what you needed. Self-care looks different for everyone. Take that nap, that breather, hot bath or whatever you need to feel whole again.
With the Corona Virus going around, all workshops have been cancelled until April 13th. On this date, we will re-evaluate the situation and hope to get back to in-person learning. Unfortunately, we won’t be able to make up all the workshops but we can offer them from home. All workshops can be done through phone, face-time or zoom. Each workshop will be one hour, include handout and have a Q&A at the end. Each workshop can be scheduled for days, evenings or Saturdays.
Please email me at DLCounseling2014@gmail.com for more information/any questions or to set up your private or group workshop.
I’m also offering private coaching sessions through Phone, Face time or Zoom.
The workshops listed below can all be done virtually:
Stop Taking things Personally
Having Healthy Relationships with your Adult Children
Positive Aging
Positive Psychology- Finding your Happiness
Releasing Anger and Finding Forgiveness
Emotional Detox Dealing with Negative People
Stop the Panic and Anxiety
Stress Less, Savor More
Living a Mindful Life
Coping with Change and Loss
Positive Parenting
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What we Need is Hope

What We Need Is Hope
By: Diane Lang
In these recent days where it’s easy to get stuck in the darkness, where can we find the light?
How do we find hope?
By being silent and asking for help.
Then, being silent again to listen to what comes to us.
Hope is natural, it’s inside of all of us, it’s just a matter of connecting to it again.
You can find hope when you are inspired by someone.
When you hear a good-feeling story.
When we see the big picture.
When we connect to others and realize we are not alone.
When we take risks and step out of our comfort zone.
When we accept ourselves for who we really are.
When we learn something new.
When we see someone do something for others.
When we stop thinking about ourselves and think about others, the world.
When we make changes.
When we learn something new.
When we connect to gratitude.
When we connect to the good we have done and we feel a sense of accomplishment and pride.
When we are curious and find interest in something.
From everyday miracles like the sunrise and sunset, babies and animals.
When you take the time to see how far you have come.
When you look at the past and see how you have thrived through challenges.
When you pay it forward and make someone else smile.
Every time we feel love or receive love.
It’s there for the taking.
With the Corona Virus going around, all workshops have been cancelled until April 13th. On this date, we will re-evaluate the situation and hope to get back to in-person learning. Unfortunately, we won’t be able to make up all the workshops but we can offer them from home. All workshops can be done through phone, face-time or zoom. Each workshop will be one hour, include handout and have a Q&A at the end. Each workshop can be scheduled for days, evenings or Saturdays.
Please email me at DLCounseling2014@gmail.com for more information/any questions or to set up your private or group workshop.
I’m also offering private coaching sessions through Phone, Face time or Zoom.
The workshops listed below can all be done virtually:
Stop Taking things Personally
Having Healthy Relationships with your Adult Children
Positive Aging
Positive Psychology- Finding your Happiness
Releasing Anger and Finding Forgiveness
Emotional Detox Dealing with Negative People
Stop the Panic and Anxiety
Stress Less, Savor More
Living a Mindful Life
Coping with Change and Loss
Positive Parenting
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8 Ways to Prevent the Winter Blue’s

8 Ways to Prevent the Winter Blues Called SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder)
By: Diane Lang

With the clocks being turned back an hour and the days getting shorter, we can experience Seasonal Disorder. This is when people experience a change of moods during the winter months, particularly a feeling of depression and sadness. I have clients who start to feel the winter blues as early as the beginning of October. Typically, when the weather gets warmer, these feelings will begin to lessen. If you are feeling under the weather during the cold winter months but not sure if you are having seasonal disorder, you can check to see if you are experiencing certain symptoms related to the disorder.

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) Symptoms:

1. Feelings of sadness, hopelessness and anxiety during the winter months.

2. Feeling fatigue, loss of energy, trouble concentrating and unmotivated.

3. The feelings of sadness, fatigue, isolated, etc. that start out mild and become more severe as the winter progresses.

4. Change in appetite and sleeping habits.

5. Social withdrawal – loss of interest in social activities and hobbies. Some people tend to “hibernate” during the winter months. They don’t leave their house very often during the winter months and they stop socializing and enjoying their daily activities. They start feeling isolated, lonely and depressed. Watch out for this pattern.

“The cause of SAD is still unknown, but we know environmental factors play a big role. “A person who lives in an area near a lake can get ‘the lake effect’ where he gets so much snow and very little sun all winter, resulting in SAD. We also know that SAD can run in the family – genetics play a role. Seasonal affective disorder is more common in women and we usually see symptoms starting in young adulthood.”

Treatment and How to Prevent

There are different treatment options available for SAD and even ways to help prevent SAD or at least the severity of it.

1. Light Therapy – we know that increased sunlight helps improve the symptoms of seasonal disorder. There are certain lights you can buy called “Light Therapy Box,” which mimic outside light and help you lift your mood and spirits.

2. Psychotherapy – a therapist can help you identify your negative thoughts and behaviors and help change them. A therapist can also help you find good coping skills to feel better.

3. Spend some time outdoors to grab some natural light – take a morning or afternoon walk and take time to sit in the sun to help lift your spirits. Even if the weather is cold and snowy, we do know that being outside in the winter months is beneficial.

4. Exercise – every time we exercise, we produce endorphins while reducing stress hormones. This gives us a boost of happiness.

5. Bring the outdoors inside – open up the shades and curtains. Move your desks and chairs near the window to bring the sunlight in doors.

6. Don’t let winter make you feel trapped. Make weekly plans to have fun whether it’s dinner with friends or catching a movie, just make sure to laugh and socialize. Surround yourself with family and friends to give the extra support you need.

7. Plan a vacation where the weather is warm, and the sun is shining. If you feel a sense of isolation and loneliness in the winter months, setting up vacation time in warm, sunny spots can help and give you something to look forward to.

8. Meds – Doctors have prescribed anti-depressants that have worked well for some patients that suffer with more severe SAD symptoms.

For more information please visit Diane’s website: http://www.dlcounseling.com
Email Diane at DLCounseling2014@gmail.com

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About Diane Lang…

Therapist, Educator and Life Coach
As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.

Through her three books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness”, “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career” and “ Mindfully Happy- waking up to life.” Diane has been speaking and empowering people nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement.

As an expert in her fields of therapy, Lang has been featured in the Daily Record, Family Circle, Family Magazine, Working Mother Magazine and Cookie Magazine, seen on NJ 12 TV, Good day CT, Style CT, The Veira Network, CBS TV and “Fox & Friends”. She has also participated in a reality based Internet show, ourprisoner.com, hosted Generation X-tinet.

 

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