Eight steps to a happy life – choosing happiness

Eight  Steps to a Happy Life – Making the Commitment to Choose Happiness

 
 
Flanders, NJ — May 30, 2013 / (http://www.myprgenie.com) — We make happiness harder than it  has to be. If we keep trying to find it or searching for it too long, all we  will find is frustration. We can choose happiness by making the commitment to  ourselves to choose happiness. We need to realize all changes take time and hard  work. Are you willing to do the work? If you are you can live a happier life.   Psychotherapist, author and positive living expert, Diane Lang, offers eight  steps to start the process to a happier life:   1. Accepting and  embracing where you are in life – this is your starting point, a foundation. 
2. Realize the bottom line is you are WORTHY! Our biggest fear is not  being worthy.
3. To make these changes you need to repeat positive  thoughts over and over again- remember the negative cycle started the same way.  You either heard negative statements about yourself from others repeatedly or  you constantly put yourself down; either way we need to break the  cycle.
4. Self-compassion- how do you talk to yourself? Are you  constantly putting yourself down? What kind of monologue goes on in your head on  a daily basis? Start the cycle of self-compassion by being kind to yourself.  Remove all the negative words such as I can’t, I won’t, should, could, would,  maybe, etc.
5. Each day take a small risk and write it down, keep a  journal of all your risks. In your journal ask yourself:
Why did I choose  this risk? How did it make me feel? Was the risk a success?
Asking  yourself these questions will help you knock down the wall of vulnerability and  fear. This allows us to see we can make a mistake; recover, grow and learn from  it.
6. Be your true self- we need to be our true selves in order to find  true connections with others. We have friends that we need to keep a mask on or  feel like we walking on egg shells because deep down inside we are afraid that  we will not fit in or be accepted. Change this cycle by being the “real” you so  you attract the right type of relationships.
7. Remember all negative  situations are temporary. Ask yourself, will this situation matter in two weeks  or six weeks? Look at the big picture will this situation impact my life is a  huge way? Most of the time what we stress out about is not worth the time we put  in, we forget about it within a few weeks. Don’t waste your energy or  time.
8. All situations can be viewed as good or bad, it’s all about  perspective. When things happen that most people would consider “bad”, I choose  to look at it as a learning experience. Instead of saying, why me? I say what  can I learn from this experience? How will it help me grow to be a better  person? What can I change so it won’t happen again? This changes the view. If we  change our perspective, we change how we feel.
 
For more information visit Diane’s website: www.dlcounseling.com or email Diane at Lifeline36@aol.com
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About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang is a Therapist, educator, author and life coach. Diane has two books: Baby steps the path from motherhood to Career and Creating balance & finding happiness. Diane works as a Therapist and also is an adjunct at Montclair State University. This blog will help educate and empower you to live your best life! For more information please visit her website: www.dlcounseling.com
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