Creating our own setbacks

Creating Our Own Setbacks
When we think about setbacks, we always think that something happens to us to cause a setback. Maybe we get fired, go off our diet and binge on chocolate cake, etc. Yes, those are setbacks but what if we also caused setbacks by our fear?

The setback could be fear….fear that stops you from taking action, moving forward and keeps you small. Due to fear, you don’t take the risk, don’t take forward action, say no instead of yes, etc.
You subconsciously created the setback so you wouldn’t encounter any of the critics, make mistakes, feel rejection, be vulnerable or risk failure.
Remember you are your own worst critic and can be so harsh that you keep yourself down.
This might feel safe at the time but without risk, growth and change we can’t be happy and successful.

Instead ask yourself
What is the consequence of not trying?
If one year from now nothing has changed in your life…what would your life look like? Feel like?
What would your life look like if you weren’t so scared of failures and mistakes?
Visualize yourself living your best life. Really visualize it in detail and using your physical senses.
We don’t have to let setbacks stop us in our tracks, we can triumph and thrive.

Remember, If you don’t have failures or mistakes, you’re not living.

Therapist, Educator and Life Coach
As a Therapist, Educator and Positive Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally.

Through her three books, “Creating Balance & Finding Happiness”, “Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career” and “ Mindfully Happy- waking up to life.” Diane has been speaking and empowering people nationwide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for personal issue advisement.

As an expert in her fields of therapy, Lang has been featured in the Daily Record, Family Circle, Family Magazine, Working Mother Magazine and Cookie Magazine, seen on NJ 12 TV, Good day CT, Style CT, The Veira Network, CBS TV and “Fox & Friends”. She has also participated in a reality based Internet show,, hosted Generation X-tinet.

For more information please visit or email Diane at

About Finding your happiness

Diane Lang is a Therapist, educator, author and life coach. Diane has two books: Baby steps the path from motherhood to Career and Creating balance & finding happiness. Diane works as a Therapist and also is an adjunct at Montclair State University. This blog will help educate and empower you to live your best life! For more information please visit her website:
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